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Dan78, I could relate to your post because I too would feel exactly the same way and have the same exact thoughts in my head if my girl were to go on vacation without me. Madly In Love's post really helped my thinking, because it was a real female in a similar situation who actually did have fun without being unfaithful, while sincerely thinking about her man the whole time. This proves that a woman CAN have fun without cheating or being disrespectful to you just because you're not around. While your girl is on vacation, you should try to imagine her being the same way. Whatever you do, do not initiate any arguments because of these thoughts in your head, because this is your problem not hers. I know it's hard, but try to keep it to yourself. You have to trust her. If you think that she could not be trusted than you shouldn't be with her. I wish I had a better answer for you. Let me know what IS working for you to get through this situation. Like I said, I too have these kinds of thoughts in my head. Good luck.

Thank you so much for your honest response. You're totatlly right. If I act jealous towards the way she dressess, she'll lose interest and I'll lose that fine girl of mine. I guess it is insecurity on my part. I did have a little talk with her about it, and she definitely tried her best to reassure me that I'm the only one she thinks about and the only one she loves and wants to be with. She says she feels comfortable dressing that way (and it's true; she's dressed that way as long as I know her) and she doesn't do it to get attention because she'll get attention anyway. I guess I just have to calm down and just accept that my woman if fine and men are always going to flirt and gawk and look, and she's not going to pay mind to it. Well I hope anyway.

I've been with my girlfriend for a while now and she's everything I always wanted in a girl; loving, affectionate, very attractive, respectful, etc. Most importantly, she definitely proves to me everyday that her interest level is very high. Although our love seems very strong, I get these jealous impulses almost every day for no reason even though she had not given me any reason at all to feel that she can't be trusted. I think that it may be some insecurity on my side that I think stemmed from a past relationship. I was engaged a few years back and very early on in that relationship my ex-cheated on me. I loved her so much that I stayed with her even though she did what she did, but I became extremely jealous and possessive with her after that. Everything bothered me from how she dressed to how she spoke and interacted with other guys; even my own friends. She did everything she could to try to convince me that she'd never cheat again, but the jealous feelings NEVER went away. After 4 years of that stress in my head, I finally had the courage to fight the love I felt for her and break up with her. Back to my current issue, the biggest problem that I have in my head with my current girlfriend is the way she dresses. She is very, very pretty and has a very nice body, and now that the weather is becoming nicer and warmer, she's starting to wear her tight jeans and tight shirts which really accentuate her beautiful Coca-Cola figure, especially her back side and it's driving me a little crazy inside!!! It drives me nuts picturing guys staring, flirting, and gawking at her all day long. She even admits that guys flirt with her on a daily basis, though I do believe it in my heart that she doesn't reciprocate. It still kills me though. It's scary because I'm feeling the same tenseness in my chest and the same pain I used to feel with my Ex, and I can't explain why. I hope that someone could help me or show me how I can get over these feelings that I have inside before the feelings in my head get worse. I don't want to screw this up since we're doing so well and we're already talking about having a future together. What can I do to get these thoughts out of my head for good? Anybody out there ever go through the same thing? I'd love to hear guys and girls perspective on this. Thanks.