Amen

Well, my gf is actin like a kid. Its not now that m gettin irratted with her. We been together since a year now n i have had this problem with her rite from the beginning. She has got a lot of restrictions in her family..so she can meet me only durin college hours. We both r in diff colleges which aren that far from each other. SO everytime i miss her i just ask her to meet me. But half of the times she says no n explains by sendin me her time table n sayin that she cant miss a specefic lecture. I try askin her again the same day,. N she gets angry n starts being rude. I cant even believe m typin all this. M feelin like such a kid. There are other issues too. She never lets out her feelings. Like if we meet for a date and if after the date, sometime in the day if we speak to each other n i ask her how her day was, she just asnwers in word. Like she says "my day was amazing"..i mean there is a lot more u can say rite. When i point out this to her.. She again gets pissed. There are a lot of issues like this. N if things dont go her way..She starts being rude. At times i make a mistake n maybe realise later. But when i realise my mistake i do say sorry to her not once but a million times. But she just doesnt care. Today her friends n me were supposed to go for lunch. But the plan got cancelled cuz they ended up havin a guest lecture which they all had to attend. But it was only \a 30 min lecture. HEr friends were like they dont wanna go for lunch cuz the lecture just spoilt their mood. SO i just told her to meet me instead n me n her could go for lunch. N all she could say was "nope sorry i dont feel like meetin".. she did this cuz last nite we had fought because i was tellin her bout the things i dont like which she should try try changing to make this relationship better. i aslo told her that i am open to her for pointing out my mistakes n ill surely rectify them this doesnt seem good at all.. I just feel like a 15 yr old kid who just got into a relationship. N it doesnt even sound that bad,. But we keep fightin n fightin. Shez a actin like such a kid rite from the beginning.. n for those who have been followin, this is the same gal who had got physical with her X while being commited to me. heres the link lookin forward to a lot of help.. Amen

There is nothing to be confused bout I am hurt cuz the girl i loved ended up meetin her x after 3 yrs and they kissed and had thier time. So i was wondering if this was because i was always nice to her. I was wondering if i was a jerk, Would this ever happen?.. And i am not always nice to her. I stand up for my self if she is wrong. Am just wondering if i should put my foot down. Stop playing the nice card and become a jerk. I no its sounds stupid. But i really need to no. Thus the topic. Is it better being a jerk...

I would date a jerk. U never no someones a jerk unless u actually get to no them rite? But if i find out am dating a jerk i wouldn just leave cuz i found out. I'll try making things work. And if then things dont work out. Thats when ill walk away. And yea, My gal is not a jerk.. I was wondering if it helps being a jerk?

Thanks to everyone for their replies. It really got me thinking. Any more views?.. And i guess u should read this thread, it might hellp u to know y i posted this topic in the first place. And maybe u can help me out.

I have been in this relationship since 8 months now. And i "AM NOT" a jerk. But seems like girls prefer jerks over gentlemen. I was really good to my girl and she betrayed me. I always keep on hearing,IF ur a gentleman, Shez going to take advantage of u and leave u sooner or later, If ur a jerk, Shez going to stick to u like glue. How true is this?? (I am not a bad person.. Just that life has been really unfair and i really need to no y being a gentleman is so bad..)

sorry for the late reply...been thinking a lot about it. Alrite heres an update. We spoke and she also told me that she told her x that she is still in love wid him. I asked her whether that is true. She said she dint no wat she was doing. She was meetin him after 3 years and she wasnt thinking when all this happened. I met her x and spoke to him. He told me the entire story and luckily i heard the same story from my gf. When i was with her x i called her up. She told him that he has * * * *ed up her life too much and now she wants a clean relationship with me and that he should * * * * off. She told him that if he tries to get in touch with her she ill just tell her parents that he is creating problems in her life. And then he can deal with her parents. I spoke to her x and i dont think its his fault at all. He met her cuz he dint no anyone else in the city. As a friend he put his hand around her shoulder which is not tough to believe. But she came onto him and rested her head on his shoulder. He tried kissin her but she dint stop him. He asked her is this wat she wanted and she told him she is still in love wid him. Now they are no more in contact. I am sure of that cuz i have my sources from where i can find out if they ever get in touch. She said she doesnt want a future with him. She wants a future with me. A question for the girls. Would this happen to u. If u met ur x after a gap of 3 years and u guys had broken up only because of the distance, Would u end up kissing him or telling him u still love him? and still not mean it and be in love with ur current boyfriend?? Oe more thing that is irritatin me is the fact that this whole thing hasnt made a diff to her. She is still the same. IF i am rude to her she doesnt bother to say anything. She keeps on giing me missed calls on my cell. When i message askin what happned. She gets angry.. Well if its nc then do i have to tell her or just have no contact and not respond to her calls or messages or e mails. And for how long?... Lookin forward to some really good suggestions Amen

Hi everyone, i'm just using my friends id to get some advice on something i need to talk about. Am 19 and i have been dating this girl who i love very much since 8 months. We were very happy with each other. Things were going great. But there was only one problem in our relationship. She was still in touch with her X boyfriend whu is in another city. They kept on talkin to each other on the phone, \they mailed each other.. \they even texted each other. I had no problems wid this cuz she said it was clean friendship. And that she has no feelings for him and she loves me and not him. Now her x was in the same city a few days back. And she hadnt met him in 3 years. So she dint even ask me whether she can meet him. All she said was i have to meet him. The minute she told me this i got all possesive and told her how insecure i am about her meetin him. But she was like i want to meet him to clear some things. (i dont think it is important to mention wat things!!) So i told her to promise me three things. She was to promise me that she will tell me everything that happened between them, She wouldn be late for our date and she would tell him not to contact her anymore. (i dint want her to stay in touch with him due to some incidences that took place during the early stages of our relationship) So she met him. She was supposed to meet me after meetin him cuz it was going to be the last time we were meetin in a month because i was going for a trip to brazil with my friends. So after she met him, \she met me. She made up a story about the things that happened between her and the x. I believed her cuz i knew she was not lyin. One month later..... Now 2 days back we spoke on the phone and i kept on askin her whether there was anything physical that happened between her and the x. At first she was like no nothing physical happened. But somehow i just dint wanan stop askin. So i kept on askin her the same question. Finally she told me everything. The X kissed her, Held her hand and tried puttin his hand inside her shirt. I asked her whether she stopped him from doing this. And she was like ya i stopped him from kissin me and holdin my hand but then i just gave in. I asked her for how long did they kiss and hold hands and she was like for the entire movie. Thats 2 and a half hours. So she cheated on me.. We spoke about it and she is like she loves me and she doesnt love him and that she knew wat she did was wrong but she dint know how it happened!! I dont know wat to do. She kissed her x boyfriend, And she is still in touch with him. But one thing i am sure of, She doesnt love him, She loves me. I can bet my life on this. So i decided to forgive her. But i dont know if i did the rite thing. I dont even know how to trust her from now on. But i still love her. I am so confused.. Somone please tell me wat i should do. Hang in there or let go? And y??

Y e a h!

*cheers* thats all i can say

yeah thanx.. about brushing my teeth..i have been conscious about bad breath since long and thats y i brush after every meal!!... and yeah...moutwash..u think it really works for long??..which one do u prefer...i mean some good ones.. i tried them but dunt think they work much... is it a good idea to chew mint just before u gonna kiss..i mean like just chew it and then when u start..just spit it out..and yet be casusual about it.. i already feel better since i talked this out!

yeah..however bad this sounds..there are days when i have bad breath when i cant help it..and if thats the day when i am meeting my bf..then its like a nightmare...not that i am not hygenic..but it just comes...i no it... lame but yesh..i need solutions to this..how do i get rid of this bad breath when i really need to...tried lotta possible ways... and yeah some of u mite think am disgustiing posting something like this..but it really irritates me..some times...cuz even though i stay hygenic..it just comes!!!