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In the past I felt it wasn't working but she begged me to stay and work at it. Can't believe she can go to a next man straight away without taking time to readjust.She said it was over before but we acted the same and slept together too. she is a loving girl and i blame myself for not accepting the love. It seem she had an idea of what love was - it meant being intimate having sex being close. I mention to her once to come down and just chill no touching but she said there be no point cos she wanted to get close. In the last few weeks i stop sex just to develop the other side of the relationship but i guess she thought i didn't love her cos i didn't want to have sex with her. She is good at her job has loads of friends can't believe she was insecure with me. since the break i'm the only one who has contacted first then she replies - i thought it be easier for her to contact me cos her life is ok while i'm still hurting. Cydeways, how did you overcome your insecurity?

I was with my girl for 2 yrs. It wasn't serious at the start but it grew but I was insecure in the relationship. She loved me but i couldn't handle her love and I tested her to justify it. i would give reasons why it wouldn't work.we broke up a few times but got back together because deep down I wanted to be with her.Few weeks ago she asked me to her flat to keep her company as her cousin was away. She cancelled the day before saying something had come up. Week later she told me it wasn't working and was tired off breaking up and coming back.Eventually she told me she had met some1 the week before she wanted me to come up.When she ask me to stay with her she suggested staying the night. She justified this by saying she thought the relationship was over months ago and it was just a habit. why did she stay with me when she didn't want to be with me? Since she was 16 (she 23 she has never gone a month without another man (not sleeping around - long term relationships though none have lasted more than 2 yrs) when i met her she was splitting up with a man and now she it seems only left me when their is another man (she doesn't seem to let go unless another man is there to catch her !!) She has said she doesn't want to lose me from her life but any arrangements we made she cancels and then rearranges (2 so far). I miss her Do you think we both insecure? I think she always needs a man to be happy and I need 100% proof to know a woman wants me! Should we stay friends or let it go - I don't think she loves the new guy its someone she can go out with her friends with and fill the emotional void. She was perfect for me and I think I met a lot of what she wants - Is it worth trying again? (sorry for the long post)

His feelings are down to insecurity - i treated my girl (now ex) like that she was so loving and caring but I couldn't handle her love so I created argumements to prove to myself she wasn't perfect !!