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TAKE HER SOMEWHERE BEAUTIFUL, TELL HER HOW IMPORTANT AND SPECIAL IT WAS FOR YOU TO HER WITH YOU. IF SHE RESPONDS COMFORTABLY TO YOUR LINGUISTIC SEDUCTION KISS HER.

I greatly appreciate all the advice you wonderful women have provided me. I am so glad that I have found this site, it has been so helpful in more ways that one. In will address your suggestions one at a time: Ways to meet women: 1. Personals sites: Tried that but due to lack of free time I can no longer set aside time to meet women that do not provide accurate representation of themselves. 2. Nightclubs: Drugs, Party Girls and superficiality 3. Through friends and acquaintances: I am not conceded just really aware… the truth is that the few lesbian friends I have initially intended to date me or still desire to do so and I find that they have not been helpful. 4. Through work or being lucky in living a genuine life – This is so sad…I work in the fashion industry and believe or not there are not many GROUNDED AND CONSERVATIVE lesbians in my professional or social circles. In my leisure time I attend very intellectual and private society events where most people are not open about taboos. I would love to be OPEN about my sexuality, but am certain it would sabotage my ability to maintain my social status….and once you open up to someone it can be exposed in the paper. I sometimes fantasize of an alternate universe where I can shave all my hair off and forget about the imaginary gender lines but my lifestyle does not allow that….For the women that can feel fortunate. I do not fit any stereotypes and am attracted to women that do not either so this posses problems. I met women all the time but as things progress I find that they are BI or Married lesbians etc and that's NOT what I want. That can be as much of a waste of time and sometimes loss of business. SOMEONE POSED A QUESTION ABOUT HOW TO ASK A WOMAN IF SHE IS GAY…I CAN HELP. PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS TELL YOU WHAT THEY WANT TO TELL YOU, LET THEM LEAD THE CONVERSATION. - THERE IS AN OLD LATIN SAYING THAT SAYS WINE BRING THE TRUTH - ASK HER IF SHE HAS A MAN IN HER LIFE… STRAIGHT WOMEN USUALLY DO - ASK HER WHAT ACTIVITIES DOES SHE PARTICIPATE IN HER FREE TIME - ASK WHERE SHE GOES TO MEET MEN - TELL HER YOU HAVE A FRIEND IN TOWN AND IF SHE CAN SUGGEST WHERE TO RESEARCH SOME LESBIAN BARS - LOOK AT HER NAILS - INVITE HER TO A WOMEN ORIENTATED CONFERENCE AND SEE HOW SHE RESPONDS TO ASSERTIVE AND MOST LIKELY SOME GAY WOMEN BECAUSE OF MY CAREER I AM NOT ABLE TO GET INVOLVED IN ANYTHING POLITIC _________________ I KNEW THAT DUE TO MY LIMITATIONS I DID NOT HAVE MANY OPTIONS BUT I WAS JUST CURIOUS ABOUT WHAT ALL OF YOU SEEMINGLY INTELLIGENT AND MATURE WOMEN WOULD SUGGEST. DOES ANYONE KNOW OF ANY UPSCALE DATING SERVICE FOR HIGH PROFILE LESBIANS? OR A NETWORK, ORGANIZATION OR BUSINESS ORIENTATED CONFERENCE FOR GAY WOMEN? ANYTHING UNTRADITIONAL?

Other than night clubs, where else is there to meet single lesbian women? What is a good way to discreetly ask a woman if she is gay?

In order to make a woman melt you have to be man enough to handle it first. If your are serous about making the change, you should contact Improved Image Consulting Services, link removed. I am almost positive one of their consultants can help you with what to do, say and wear. A little birdie told me about it.

I had a brief conversation with this woman that shared with me that she maintained a friendship with her X by being kind and respectful. I spoke with my love for over 2 hours and was very kind. I explained that I have never loved anyone more than her she is the love of my life she compliments me most has made me happier and that I cant imagine my life without her and I ultimately want to be friends we planned a trip to Rome and Italy in June and told her that I refused to torture each other by sharing yet another trip together that lacks sex. Moreover the most romantic country in the world. So we are going on a trip next weekend. A cottage in the great outdoors with the dogs. I explained that one day when she is frankly ravishing someone she loves if I am the love of her life and she realizes that she lost me for something so petty like sex she would forever regret it. She promised to be uninexhbited and give 100 percent and I would do the same. It will be difficult for me because at this point I am exhausted by the situation and moreover my body has a memory of her hands and mouth but I owe it to myself to do this to be certain that she gave 100 percent and could not even give me basic satisfaction which at that point I could improve and I owe it to her to give her all and move on if she can not please me. True love is KIND

To be honest I have not ever experienced constructive and helpful support from the lesbian community and I have been out since I was 15. I now see that I have only myself to blame for failing to seek it out. I am touched by all of your advice although I am quite open minded and resourceful and I have attempted ALL of your suggestions already. I have come to a conclusion and I want to thank you all again for putting so much thought into a problem that seems to plague the lesbian community predominately in long tern relationships. This is an incredible web site that has the potential to change lives and minds.

She and I met a few years ago and began dating immediately with no sex for about 2 months before i decided that she was no my type. She was overly feminine, bisexual and had a lot to learn about being with women since she had just come out. She continued to express interest in me and was very patient while i dated other women and persistently pursued me after I clearly expressed I just wanted to be friends. We remained friends for 3 years and although i knew she was interested i remained friends with her because I LOVED and enjoyed her company and that she never crossed the lines of friendship. i never felt the way I did with her with any other woman which includes the two loves of my life. She is brilliant, business savvy, gorgeous, reliable, loving, good natured and more. I have compromised many things in relationships before her for Fantastic sex and passionate connections and I am obviously not still with them. I began to grow tired of active dating and the night life and finally felt fully recuperated from my 5 year breakup she was there. love still in her eyes and reliable as ever she took me by surprise when i actually decided to give her another chance, because I just wanted to be in a healthy and happy relationship without all the drama with straight and bisexual women that lured me with seduction and kept me with lots of love, emotions and hot sex on expressways. I am very femme and LOVE femme women but find that many other femmes lack the butch ability to satisfy aggressively in the bedroom where it counts. She seemed more assertive and ready to take a relationship with a woman, moreover I began to fall in love with her over the course of our friendship. Everything was perfect until we it came to having sex. She never attempted although we were happy, tested and got to know each other intimately. I felt I always had to make the first move and began to feel turned off again as I did in the beginning. I pleaded with friends that could not understand my situation since they knew of my past sexual experiences with women and they all suggested I make the first move because she was perhaps shy and intimidated by me. Although reluctant because i so badly wanted her to take me and unleash her passion, love and lust for me i initiated twice and her attempts to please me were THE WORST SEXUAL EXPERIENCES OF MY LIFE and conyine to be. We have had sex a total of 8 times in 3 years. She had and has no clue about how a women's anatomy works or where it's all located....weird....i swear i am not exaggerating. She also has very small hands which doesn't cut it for me and is to femme to use a dildo with the force or rhythm that I can feel. Basically sexually we ARE NOT compatible and i know that we can never be. However when i tell you that i LOVE this women i mean it with all my heart. I have never been happier, more satisfied emotionally and mentally in my life and I have been around. I have tried butches but they lack the femme qualities that I require for long term lust but hard femmes are hard to find. Should i just accept her and out lack of sex since i have EVERYTHING ELSE or should i break up with her now? She has told me that if we are not together she cant be my friend because she loves me to much and the thought of loosing her would kill me. PLEASE HELP ME i am not happy with her because i need sex and not get turned on by teaching and explaining things. In my eyes it comes down to true love and no sex or and open road.