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PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO CAREFULLY READ THIS AND HELP WITH MY THIS DIFFICULT SITUATION. THANKS! I'm 17, she's 18. I work with the most beautiful girl i've ever seen. Throughout the past few months of us knowing each other, we have began to become comfortable with each other quite a bit. I've gotta to know, and love her personality. I think she understands me fairly decently. We always joke about random stuff. She jokes with others quite frequently (I guess you could say she is a flirt..she does it a lot..to a lot of people she's comfortable with) It started with random things having nothing to do with me or her, and kinda escalated that we "fake sincerely" say we love each other. Quite frequently. Most conversation we have, seems not be not on the serious side. We frequently joke about her and I getting a sickness called "pink lips" a made up disease because she had gotten pink lips from a candy she was eating at work one day. We joke with each other, that either I..or her, gave the other "pink lips" from kissing each other. When I first got the job, it seemed like she would make eye contact with me frequently. Maybe she just had her eyes in the wrong place at the right time, but it seemed to me that we did/still do make eye contact on occasion. Well, we both came to learn that she knows my older brother Jeff. When she found out she seemed extremely shocked that I was jeffs younger brother. She seemed really surprised. We talked for a bit (that was our first convorsation). She seemed to mention that she had dated my older bro's buddy Kyle. I said "Yeah, I know Kyle". Well, we talked for a bit and I left. It progressed from there last night, and left me extremely confused. I gave her a bracelet to wear when I first got to work (a band I had been wearing on my hand..nothing serious.) and she put it on. I worked for a bit, came back and chatted (the usual joking way) and made friendly conversation. Well, towards the end of the night, she said something that I pretended to be offended at. I knew she could tell when I was sad..and when I'm having a bad day (she somehow seems to know this..must be a girl thing). She kept asking why I was so sad (in a silly kinda way). I played around with that for a few minutes and eventually (I cant remember how) she said she loves me(with her cute little fake-sincere face). I'm sure she was once again, joking like usual, but I said i loved her too (using the same tone she did). She then said "we're in love." A few minutes later I came back and said "so, we're pretty much going out by now..right?". "Yeah, for sure" she replied. Whenever we see each other..we do a little lovestruck smile and do "eyebrow bops" with a smirk on our faces. Well, she later asked if I wanted the bracelet back, and I said "no, you keep it". She then said "I will keep this forever" (once again, I'm wondering if she's serious). "No you wont." I said, confidently thinking she wouldnt actually care about it..but at the same time it seemed like she kinda did. I think I came accross as being a bit serious with her at that point. It seemed like she knew I was serious, that I wanted her to keep the band, but maybe i'm wrong. This was the most significant point of the night, in my opinion. Well, it was about time to go. I was ready to go, and started walking out of the building. Thats when I heard "hey", I looked behind me. She stuck the "i love you" hand sign out and mouthed the words "i love you" and I did the same(we had done that maybe one other time that night previously), I left. She DOES joke with other co-workers quite frequently (obviously she is a flirt). When joking with the others, I never notice her joking about love, and dating, and that sorta thing. Maybe thats just because I kind of push for it. I really like her, and I want her to feel the same way about me. All of the things I do seem really kiddish and jokey with her, but I truley do care about her. I still wonder if she likes my brothers friend Kyle. I actually, think she has a crush on him still..and they may still have something. Does she feel the same way? What steps should I take from here? I know this post has been long, and probly confusing..but its the best I can do. Hopefully I can get some help here! -matt

The Story Well, it started in November when I got my new job at ShopKo. (I'm a 17 year old young man). I walked into the building and had heard about a pretty girl who worked there too, and then I saw her. She on the other hand, is a year older than me. Her name is Jennifer and she is absolutely beautiful. Through time I began to talk to her and get to know her a little better. I began to realize that not only did I think she is the most gorgeous girl I've ever seen in my life, but she is so sweet and has such a fun attitude. We began joking around with each other and talking to each other frequently. She then found out that she knows my older brother! He moved away, unfortunately, and she just continued to talk about how awesome he is, and how she was so shocked we are brothers. Well..Things didn't progress in the story much..A few "flirty" moves on my part..and maybe some on hers..? I later began to notice that she would seem really happy to see me. She would say "hey buddy!" "how are ya!" every few times she saw me. When she calls me by "Buddy" it gives me the impression that she is looking at me as a "lower"..telling me that the only reason she acts "flirty" with me is because I am HIS brother. Anyways..today I was talking to her up at her checkout lane and I told her "I'm gonna go then" cuz I needed to get back to work. Her and I made it seem that she wouldn't survive if I left her. She faked like she was sad (actually began to fake cry) and I kind of did the same. I stretched out my hand as a sign that we should hold on while we still can (still jokingly of course) and we held each others hands for a second or 2 and our fingers slid away (yes, just like you see on movies). As I walked away I said "hey look at those posters!, whoever hung them up must be completely awesome!" . (This is an inside joke we have had going for a while now..I put the posters up a while ago..and I always joke with her about how "good" I put them up ) She said yeah he is! He is so good! (And played along with the joke a bit). I said.."I know..he deserves a high 5 or somthin" and she said "Yeah he does!". Well, I walked away and came back about an hour later and saw her. She didn't remember the high 5 joke at first..but after a few minutes she remembered and gave me my high 5. Kind of a sad way to get certain attention from her..but I'm trying to create a good relationship with her. I feel like I have lots of competition to beat also..there are a couple other guys she seems to joke and act the same way with (she never held their hands of course ). I wonder if she is just a flirt to everyone..and if she really doesnt care about me. NOW ITS YOUR PART Please give honest answers to the following questions: The Questions -Does she seem to like me? (Honestly..) -Does she like me just because I am his brother? -Am I doing the right things to create the type of relationship I want with her? -Would it be wise to make a joke-type remark that we should "Go Out"..or somthing along those lines? -Am I making this relationship too friendly? THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME AND HELP WITH THIS VERY SENSITIVE SUBJECT. I LOVE YOU ALL

Lol i'll never get over this. Oh well. I'll keep lookin. Maybe i stil have hope

Well, turns out I have some not too happy news. She has a boyfriend. I don't know what I am going to do. I feel terrible

Thanks so much for spending the time to give me some advice. I'm guessing traditionally when you tell someone to give you a call, you care about them. I'm just worried she's just a nice girl, and does this to everyone.

The whole thing starts in the 4th grade when I met this girl. Ever since the day I saw her, I've had feelings for her. Throughout that time we have bounced back and forth. "Went out" in 5th grade (if that even counts lol), and she asked me out in 8th. If she liked me in 5th grade, then 8th, could she still like me in 10th? I see her starin at me sometimes at school. She says "Hi" to me when we pass by in the halls. I talk to her online every so often and have some clues that she might still like me. She told me to "give her a call" next time I was bored. My real question is, Is she just friendly? She seems to hang with lots of guy friends. Or does she really care about me. What should I do?

ANything else I should do? Girls, what do you want from a guy? What attracts you?

Thanks for the quick responses. Very much so appreciated. I'm starting to understand the EVERY NIGHT idea now. I'll lay off a bit.

I've known this girl since grade school. She's really cool. We've been pretty tight for quite some years. Back in the 7th grade she asked me out, but I turned her down because I was already with another girl . I really like this girl, I think about her all the time. It seems she never really has a chance to talk to me. I see her at school but am afraid to say something sometimes. I usually say something like "Whats Up?" or somthin. She says "Hi" to me every so often aswell. We Don't have any classes but I see her run in gym (boys and girls share the gym sometimes). Sometimes I catch her staring at me while shes running. I talk to her onm messenger almost every night. Whenever I sign on, she doesnt say anything until I say "Hey" or somthin. Does that mean she isnt interested? A few weeks ago I was talkin to her on messenger. I think I asked waht she did that night. She said "nothin really" or somthin. I told her I went to a friends house and It wasnt incredibly fun. She told me "Next time your bored you can call me" or somthin along those lines. She pretty much got off too soon for me to ask for her #. She liked me like...6 years ago.. I don't know if she likes me any more. She's a really pretty girl, and I'd say I'm a fairly OK lookin kid. What is common behavior for a girl who likes someone? Any help would be most appreciated. ThX