VeganAve

.....you've already crossed that line of friends to lovers, so why not have a little fun with her?? i understand it must difficult, now that you're developing feelings for her, and the fact that she has a possessive boyfriend....and the fact that she stated she wanted to "experiment" with you, could mean that you're setting yourself up for a hard fall.....who knows, when/if you two experiment more, she might develop feelings for you too, who knows she may have them for you already....you've already walked through that door, so why not stay and see what develops.... .......one other thing...how possessive is this boyfriend of hers? hopefully he's not the type to do any harm to you if he finds out about this....be safe and good luck!

......What's the reason he broke up with his g/f?? Maybe it was "her" who broke up with him? It's a little strange that he didn't tell you the background behind the breakup, hopefully he'll tell you......Anyways, you really dig this guy, so what's the harm in guarding your heart a bit, and seeing him, without a commitment just yet...until you really get to know him better....good luck!

My girlfriend & I are both 28 yrs. old. We've dated exclusively for nearly 4 yrs., and for the past 6 months, we've been living together. Ever since we met, she was aware of the fact that I drank and smoked marijuana, and I was aware of the fact that she thought drinking and marijuana was wrong(she sees it in the same category as heroin). Over the yrs. my use has become less & less (once a month, if that). We broke up awhile back, and when we got back in touch months later, she wanted to get back together, and she wanted to get an apt., and when i said, well, I enjoy having a few beers now & then, she said she didn't care, that's fine. A joint and a beer are the same to me, so I figured that she really opened up her perspective. So we moved in. I have a full time job, I don't go out and party. I'm a homebody and like to kick back with my g/f. I don't smoke in the house. However my car died out a few weeks ago, and i had to move my weed from my car, to the closet. It was chronic and obviously I didn't store it well enough b/c, she smelled it, and searched through my things, finding a couple grams of bud and my little bong. So, now she thinks i'm a drug addict. She views getting stoned for a couple hours a month (and when i got stoned in the past , it was never in her presense, it was always when i took a walk alone) as being an addict. She's putting me in a position to "choose" her or the drugs as she puts it. But it's far from that. I love her so much, but I also want the option open to smoke a joint once in awhile. I don't want someone to dictate that for me. She views it as destructive and wrong. The other night, during a work break, a friend came by and smoked me out a bowl. It didn't cut down on my work productivity, infact I was more focused and got more done being stoned. And by the time my shift ended, I was clear headed again, and my g/f didn't even notice. Sometimes, I would come back from running errands, and I would still be a little stoned , but she never noticed.so my question is this....Should I conitue to smoke in secret once in a great awhile? I mean she's going too far calling me a drug addict. I don't want to lose her, but I don't want to agree to what she wants, and "never" doing it again. On a sidenote, she has had a weight problem ever since i've known her. she loses then she gains. And i've never confronted her, saying, shed those extra pounds or i'm breaking up with you, b/c it's unhealthy. But she is saying this to me. Any advice for those who've been there?