So here's the short of it-
I have known my current boyfriend for about 9 years and we have been dating exclusively for the past 4 months. He has a two year old from literally a one night stand. He is currently trying to get custody of her but the "baby mama" is crazy and keeps prolonging things, like firing her lawyer a couple days before the court date so we have to wait another month. So that is our back ground. So for the last 4 weeks him and I have been getting in to minor disagreements over things that in the grand sceme of things wasn't even worth fighting over. When this happens, he doesn't talk to me all day except for a couple of one word answers. This makes me clam up and then I don't even want to talk to him. Its a vicous circle. Then one of us starts to clear things up and the next day everything is fine. The problem is that it seems to happen almost every other day. I know that deep down the fact that he has a daughter that he is just now getting to see after two years is getting to me. I feel pushed aside when she's around, which is stupid b/c she's two, but I feel like the only reason he wants me around is to get stuff for him and change the diapers. Another problem I have is that the baby mama is in love with him and insists that he go to her house to see the kid for two weeks straight or he won't be able to see the child. I know that he has no feelings for her but it seems to keep getting in the way. SO with all that said, I love him and want this to work. I just need some advice on how to deal with a child that I kinda resent (which is selfish and I don't want to feel this way) and how to talk to him when he clams up.
thanks for the input