allowishus

that's a good idea. boxing up the things he gave you. i did the same thing. my mom wanted me to get rid of all the things he gave and reminded me of him...but i wasn't ready so i put them all away for now. i'm not in contact with my ex...the reason for this is it's easier for the moving on process. i'd like us to be friends...but now that he has a girlfriend, i don't want to be the one that could not live without him. it's hard. we broke up nine months ago and i am still hurting. you just have to be strong to get over these things. good luck and don't forget you're not alone in this.

There is no point in crying over spilled milk. If you really want to be with your ex-girlfriend, fix it. Talk to her about it, if she doesn't budge then move on. It's hard when people play with your feelings just because they know you're there regardless what they do. But nobody deserves that at all. You're young...you will meet other girls. Like what you said, "it's not like you're getting married", so enjoy your youth and get out there and have fun. You will eventually find the girl for you and might have a real relationship. Sometimes you think that this is the girl for you now, wait until you meet girls when you're 21, 25, 27, 30 and so on. You will find that they all may seem alike, but they are very different in all aspects. Then you will know what kind of girl you want to be with. But if you really care about this person, try to fix it first. Clarify the mixed signals, if there are. If she tells you straight out that she doesn't want to be with you...as bad as it may seem...accept it and move on. When you're older and wiser, bigger challenges will come...bigger disappointments and bigger heartaches. And please, do not let your heart and emotions be stepped on by someone who doesn't even deserve your care and attention. You deserve better than that.

I wondered about the same thing how she got a hold of my email address. He would be the only one who would have my contact information...but she denied that she didn't do it. I told him that I dont want to have anything to do with them...I am trying to move on and I'm being accused of something that I didn't do. I even got emails after that from her. But I just ignored them. I figured, she's gonna get tired eventually. I am hoping that someday he will come to realize what he lost and I am hoping that when that time comes, he's the one hurting from all of it. I know it's not right to even think that, but I think that he should at least have a feel of what I went through. Right?

I just want to say that having read your message, it's every word that I have been going through. I am glad that I am not alone in this. Your words, have not only encouraged me to move on, but has inspired me to see that I have my life ahead of me. I have been wanting to start my journal for quite some time now but am at a loss not knowing what to write, although I feel that I have so much emotions to write down. If you don't mind I'd like to put your message on the very first page of my journal to remind me of someone who has given me inspiration. Thank you for sharing that.

I really appreciate all the encouraging words. This has been bothering me for quite some time. I know that walking away and moving on with my life is what I needed to do. Having read your replies and knowing that I am not alone in this gives me the strength and the confidence to move on. I have been unable to talk to my friends about this because I know it's for the better, but telling them that I still do love him only angers them. I'm glad the somewhere out there, even strangers, can give you the comfort level that you need. Thanks so much.

My ex and I broke up 8 months ago. We had a fight and sort of agreed that we should break up. A couple of months ago, he introduced his new gf to our friends. He told one friend that he's happy and that he's comfortable with their "no commitment" relationship. When we were together, we were almost like a married couple since all of our friends are all married. I still love him and want him back. Recently, I received an email from his girlfriend asking me to stay away from him. I have never attempted to contact him at all, but was surprised by the accusation. I told him about it and he told me that he's been hearing rumors about her and that people have been trying to break them up. I forwarded all the emails to him that I got...he then sent me an email saying he confronted his gf and that she didn't send me those emails. And because of this disturbing events, he asked me to block the email address and that he will block my email address from his, as well. I am deeply offended by this. I don't know what to do? Need advice if I should just give him up completely.