I take a bus to work and I noticed this guy for awhile and I admittedly
checked him out, in other words, I gave him the "eye". He hardly looked
and I assumed he wasn't picking up the vibe and wasn't even remotely
interested. Anyhow, one day back in May he sat next to me, which he never
did, and I was very excited , but nothing was said. The very next day
he sat with me again and said, "Can I ask you something"? I was like,
YEAH!!!!!!! He asked if I had gone to this highschool , which I had, and
he introduced himself and asked if I remembered him. Honestly, I did
not remember him and I answered him honestly. ANyway, we continued with
our conversation and I learned that he's my age, single, funny, seems
nice, etc...
I also made it clear that I was single. The problem was and is, I dont
know if he;s just being friendly or he's interested.
I dont see him on a regular basis n the bus but whenever I do, he sits
with me and it's always nice. I noticed he sometimes will say things
jokingly like " I feel im annoying you", or "You're probably like here
comes the annoying guy on the bus" , or "Do you want company" and to all
of these things I always say of course I want company or you're not
bothering me, or I enjoy your company, etc., to reassure him. I feel bad
and I wonder am I doing something that's throwing him off? I've tried to
hinting to him and setting up scenarios so that he can ask me out and
he hasnt.
The most that has happened is back in July, 2 months after our first
conversation, he asked what I was doing over the weekend, so I said Im
supposed to go to this singles event with a friend at a local bar and he
said he'll try to pass by,then he said he would have to run it by his
friends, he;s obviously not going to show up alone. I was like SCOREm
Finally he made a move!!!! I figured he was waiting for an opportunity
like that. Anyhow, it wound up pouring terribly that night and I didnt
wind up going. When I saw him on the bus the following week he asked if I
ever wound up going and I said and he then said he would up going to a
different bar. Then I said, I should have given you my number, which I
think was his cue to say, "Yes, Let me have it for next time".
Unfortunately he didnt say anything. I was like, Ok, that went well- NOT!!!!
I feel like I try to encourage him and stuff, but nothing.... Honestly,
I dont know what I should be doing? Maybe I should throw my bra at him
as a sign of interest, ha ha just kidding. Seriously, I really like him
but I prefer men to do the asking out and I really dont care what year
we're in, somethings should stay old fashioned in my opinion, it's
nature.
Also, he never talks about other girls and no he;s not gay. However,
one day he sat with this girl who he's friends with and I dont believe
there's anything going on there and he told he went out with a girl , and
I wondered was that for me to hear??? Because the last time before
that, I started to tell him that I went out to this place and he was like
there are alot guys in that place and that it's like a meat market. I
said that I wasnt interested in the those types. Then he said he goes
after work on Thursdays, so I said we shoud go out....dead silence and I
know he heard me. The only thing I can think of is that he just thinks
that I am being polite and cordial by saying we should go out/.
WHat is the problem this is all very confusing and I really like him .
I cant believe we;re 27 and it;s still a problem unless he;s just not
interested????