StarryEyes

Straight to the point: I've been on birth control for almost a year Ran out of birth control pills (forgot to re-order them...thought they came automatically with this new med system.)...anyways. So I finished the last pill on the 23th. Hung out with the ex-boyfriend (he was my first) on friday the 29th, he brought up the idea to do things, I said we cant I havent been on the birth control since Saturday and cant start it again till sunday. He said we can use other protection. Well we ended up having sex with a condom and he pulled out before (like always). Heres my situation: I have the rest of this week and next until I am supposed to start my period. So I was wondering: *when would be the best time before I start to do a pregnancy test, *whats the best kind/most accurate, *what are some symptoms (I blacked out thursday and I've never done that before, I'm having occasional sharp stomach pains, some tenderness in the girls upstairs), *and what are the chances of getting pregnant in my situation? I would really appreciate any help. I am way too young to be having a kid, I shouldnt have had sex with him at all because I'm too young, we arent married and hes my EX! So I've had several stupid moments the past few months, not too proud of them at all. But I need to fix this. Mom seems to think I'm pregnant, I had to tell my parents when I went to the hospital. I dont know if she is just trying to scare me (its working) or if she is being genuine. I can handle taking care of a baby, I just dont want too....I'm 19, that is extremely too young and too single to be getting pregnant. I wont be having sex till I'm married...thats for sure. Thanks again!!!

Hey Funlovingguy, Breakups aren't the easiet things to get over, we all know that. It does take time and slowly it will get better. You'll have days where you just don't understand why it all happened and how one person can have such an effect on your life and feelings that you essentially stop living inside. But those days will pass and you'll learn to not compare other girls to her or think about the "what if's." I think that comparing other girls to her is completely normal and part of dealing with the break up and being out on your own again. When you meet someone new and you don't compare them to her, you'll understand. (I compared for quite awhile, but I recently started talking to a guy in one of my classes and I couldn't compare because there was nothing to compare...the guy in my class took all the worries away.) It'll hit you one day, whether the girl is just a friend or possibly more, she'll take the pain away and won't be able to be compared to the ex. Yes it will still hurt, you two will still look at each other 'that way' and you'll still remember and love in 40 years from now, but it is because she holds a special place in your heart...the infamous first love. She may seem happy because she has someone to take her mind off of what happened. She has a filler to keep her occupied. It may hit her later, the pain and everything. But at least you are getting to think it through with a clear head and your heart with you instead of pulled between a new girl, the ex and you. Just learn from this that you can't live with regrets at the end of the day. Make every single moment count and make every decision without hesitation if it feels right. Keeping on moving along, keep smiling and know that eventually you'll get out of this puddle, yeah sure you'll have soggy socks...but at least the rest of you will be dry. StarryEyes O

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