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1 minute ago, Looktothesky said:

. All I have anymore is just memories of better times. I don’t see any hope of things getting better.

Sorry this is happening. Please see a physician for an evaluation of your physical and mental health and get some tests done. Ask for a referral to a licensed qualified therapist for ongoing support. You can also reach out to mental health hotlines just to talk to someone.  Does this have anything to do with this past disappointment? 

He's seems like a last minute type of planner. It's ok if he invited you because someone else bowed out. .

He also seems interested in picking up women and wants you or anyone else as a wingman.

That's fine if you want to go just have fun and don't take his last minute planning or looking for wingman personally.

On 5/18/2024 at 1:33 PM, minhajoliver said:

 she blocked me from all her IDs.

This is all you need to know. She's not interested so leave her be.

7 hours ago, Pink26 said:

. I told my husband. I had enough and I refuse to deal with her. Why does anyone have to keep on forgiving her . It bothers me so much that he’s away with her . Also the fact that I can’t stand her . How do I listen to his trip with her without losing my cool because I can’t stand her.

It's unfortunate but a lot of people don't get along with their in-laws. It's your son's grandmother and your husband's mother. 

You don't have to like her but the hating could eat at you. Let your husband and son have whatever relationship they want with her and you can avoid her. 

1 hour ago, yogacat said:

.I hate the whole concept of block him simply because of this situation.

Is this the man who sends you memes all the time that annoy you and you've asked him to stop? You don't have to block him. Platonic dating isn't a good idea and leads to too much confusion. All you can do is reset your social media and step back since you don't seem ready willing or able to date him (or anyone else?) at this time. 

3 hours ago, jul-els said:

Just to reiterate, this is not a MLM scheme. It’s a legitimate business group. It’s a venue for small businesses to network, give and receive referrals, and to close business. 

How did you two meet? What type of service was this? A dating app or matchmaking situation?  Definitely mention that you don't mix business with pleasure. 

She seems really into networking. However she can't sell you anything you're not interested in and it doesn't sound like a marketing scam.  All you can do is decide what you want out of this and not be seduced by charm and looks into something you're not interested in. 

5 hours ago, poorlittlefish said:

In passing, yes.  I literally said that I felt he wanted some kind of porn star and I couldn't be that person.  Unsurprisingly he just denied that was what he wanted.  I am going to try and talk to him about how this has been making me feel and if he is not responsive to my needs then I will have to break things off.

Unfortunately you're compatible.  He makes you feel physically and emotionally in pain.

You've already spoken to him about it. This isn't about porn, it's about he's Into BDSM and kinks that are painful and upsetting to you. 

Please don't vanilla-shame yourself into thinking you have to acquiesce to his wants. 

1 hour ago, minhajoliver said:

. One day I wrote " I miss you so much," and then she replied who is that lucky woman? Who are you missing? But unfortunately, I couldn't continue talking to him for some reason; she got very angry after that we didn't talk for about 3 months in massage. A few weeks ago, I got emotional and mentioned her name and she blocked me from all her IDs

Sorry this is happening. How do you know each other? Do you work or go to school together? Who is this other man? Is she dating him? 

Unfortunately when someone blocks you you need to respect that and leave her be. Blocking doesn't mean she's into you. Please date other women who are available and interested. 

48 minutes ago, Xixi67 said:

the fact about he being loving is I think he never cheated on me and took very good care of me just like how a parent would do idk how to describe it, he was always considerate about my health issues, 

Please see a physician for an evaluation of your physical and mental health and get some tests done. Ask for a referral to a licensed qualified therapist for ongoing support.

Especially to sort out your family and childhood issues. Your husband seems supportive and caring but can't fix all your issues especially wanting to cheat. 

Therapy could help you replace bad decisions with more productive healthy thoughts and actions that won't harm you, your husband or this guy you're cheating with. 

13 minutes ago, Xixi67 said:

Actually, he wanted me to abort; i was quite a bit unhappy and scared of having anymore attempts. For him, he didn't care abt the fact of not having baby rather  concerned more about me.

I'll stay abroad for at least 2 years. 

Please consider setting yourselves free. You're not happy and you seem to want to be single. 

6 minutes ago, kim42 said:

We're not allowed to bring anyone with us this time, it's an employee only party.

It's definitely not worth bringing a date to an office party. Especially as some sort of game. As far as this coworker.

Hopefully you'll feel better about the situation and not like he's a horrible ogre because he forgot to remind you. It was kind of him to invite you even if you were anxious about it.

He apologized because he's human and also tried to make you feel comfortable. It seems like you really didn't want to be there anyway..  

2 minutes ago, Xixi67 said:

, I had to move to abroad for higher studies,. However, after coming here, we don't get much phone talks,  I found that I've feelings for one of my classmates, who is quite a bit nice to me but idk if he is into me. 

Sorry this is happening. LDRs are difficult, lonely and frustrating. Especially for your husband who you left behind. 

Cheating is not the answer. Please rethink what you are doing. Looking for quick fixes could jeopardize your marriage. Perhaps you can get it annulled if you want to "feel like a teenager" and play around?

3 hours ago, kim42 said:

.I think it's basic politeness to confirm details if you invite someone to hang out, especially if you said you would.

Did he apologize for forgetting to remind you?

What happened when you got there and spoke with him?

3 hours ago, kim42 said:

I I don't like that he didn't confirm the details with me for the drinks thing so I'll limit my contact with him and focus my attention elsewhere.

That's a good idea since your impression of him has soured so much. He seems casual and just invited you along with a group. Perhaps he doesn't date coworkers. 

3 hours ago, Jaunty said:

Jen and Cathy killed Sarah.  

NIGHT 

Neptune Is Getting Hot Tonight 🪐

WRONG 🔇

51 minutes ago, Ana CR said:

 December he ghosted me for two days so I broke up with him via text, he later texted me back saying I was immature and refused to talk to me even though I tried reaching out several times, a month later he blocked me on everything, now he is fooling around with several women and I’m still hurting,.

Sorry this happened. It sounds like you dodged a bullet if he runs around cheating and blocking you. Please don't wrap up your self worth in someone like this. 

5 hours ago, Max33 said:

I'll probably be able to do that next year

Please don't plan ahead like this. You don't really know this person at all. 

11 minutes ago, Alokinga said:

 she said "yes, maybe another concert would be good!" which I then interpreted as "I don't want to just hang out with you without an activity because I'm not interested". Or when I say that I don't go out much she says, "don't you have friends you can hang out with? Like we're doing right now?"... 

It's great you hit it off and had a good time. She seems interested. 

This is not friend zoning, this is accepting a date.  There's no reason to just hang out. In fact that's the quickest way to the friend zone. 

13 minutes ago, Max33 said:

No, the beggining of the chat was to only try improving our language because we were both in a group to learn a language

That's okay. Language apps are popular. However you're developing a crush and that could complicate things.

1 hour ago, catfeeder said:

 who certainly doesn't deserve to be bullied here.

No one is bullying except you. My advice is sound and supportive of her choices. Follow your own advice as far as bullying so many on here so often. 

Sorry this is happening. Please consult an attorney for information advice and support regarding your situation.

Please also see a therapist for ongoing support regarding your situation and especially what's best for your children and yourself.

You can be better armed to navigate the situation with professional advice and support. 

3 minutes ago, Max33 said:

I text a girl every day for hours. We haven't met in person because she's from a different country, but it's still possible for us to meet since we're not too far apart. 

How do you know each other besides through the games and texting? When someone contacts you from a different it could be a scammer, catfish, timewaster or someone in a relationship.  You can't make someone you never met and don't even know your GF. Please step back and date local available women you can meet in person in a timely manner. 

22 minutes ago, Shycarrot said:

 : I don't think she got offended that I told her to be cautious in the beginning. Otherwise, she would not have shared these massive red/orange flags with me.

She "shared" because she thought you were a friend she could confide in, not because you were outraged. You were judgemental even if you played pokerface. Anyone can sense that because you didn't stay in your own lane. . 

22 minutes ago, Shycarrot said:

 I just got back from a first date, and that helped me to clear my head : it's definitely not a good idea to talk to her about this ! Nothing good can come out of this, thank you for advice. 

That's great. Continue to build your social life, dating adventures and hobbies, interests and activities. This helps you fill thie voids that caused over dependence on her and jealousy about her BF and life.

. In fact because you criticized her BF with your "concerns", is most likely the reason she distanced herself. That's turned out to be a good thing for you instead of being over enmeshed.