Orex
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Of course your right S4d and in many ways I have, some I havnet but I know I will in time.. But do i give up hope?
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Spoke to my ex tonight she is still angry says she dosent trust me, part of her hates me, and she feels that I may change but soon slip back into the old ways . Spoke a little more and she asked me what i wanted from her I replied that Id just like to try to get to know each other again and try and at least spend some time together" Her reply was that she would think about it . Now Im confused again, why would she say that if she said all those negative things as well....is she hoping to see the changes and that they last?
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thanks for the reply oceaneyes, She is harbouring resentment towards me , she admitted that part of her hates me. Communication during the week varies we can chat but if any problems arise she dosent want to now about them and acts cold. Its hard confronting some one who is so hostile to you,and as nc is not possible, what could i do to ease the situation?
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Well she turned up today but said that she didnt want to talk and that we would talk tomorrow. She acts odd in front of me, she avoids eye contact,and treats me in a offhand way. Why does she do this?
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Thanks for the advice I'll take that onboard Were having a chat tomorrow which was already arranged now I dont want to cancel as I feel it could be a chance to resolve some issues. how do I approach her? I dont want to keep going over the same old ground time and time again. .
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thanks for the reply k8tie kool. Thing is we can be polite and not argue with each other but I feel that we just dont communicate, we dont spend that much time together, and was just wondering how to approach somone who is angry/bitter/cold without getting my head bit off =D
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Hello, i would appreciate some advice on communicating with my ex. We broke up about 5 months ago and communcation hasnt been to good, although the past two weeks we have got on well. We even agreed to go to the cinema this weekend but she now has cancelled beacuse of the arguments. On monday and tuesday we had huge arguments about many different things and communcation has broke down. During these arguments she admitted that part of her hates me and she is still angry at me and Im sure this hinders us getting along. My question is how do I approch this situation, Im at a loss of how to approach someone who is so cold and angry towards me. We see each other every day as kids are involved. thank you
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a moron,selfish,uncaring.angry,nasty, (gets dictionary out =D ) and the fact that our son as only stayed with her once since our split says it all.
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any advice would be good as i just dont know what to do now
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well just thought I'd update things. Ex got back of her break and things seemed to be going ok , I'd stopped asking her about 'us' as Id decided to leave it and things seemed better ( better for me as well) and she had even agreed to go see a movie with me as friends. But had a disagreement about the children today, which in turn turned into a huge argument,and totally got of the topic and diffrent things were said. One of the things she shouted at me was that part of her hates me even though she cares for me, as ive noticed she is still very angry and totally cold towards me. I just feel that this a set me back a little as I poured some of my feelings out to her in the argument, and she made it quite clear that there was no chance of there being a us. She left mid argument, but phoned me later and kind of apoligised as did I,and she ended the conversation by saying that shed keep a open mind about us... Dunno what to think or do now, were both angry at the moment which dosent help and with have to see each other each day.
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Thanks edougale for you reply. Well ex went away on friday and this is the longest Ive not seen her, I have to see her each day. On Friday when I last seen her i acted aloof with her ( which I kinda regret), I was pleasant,but short. ( I even got a smile of her first one in 3 months) Thing is how do I act around her. Aloof,do more things for her?? Im angry at the moment at her and myself and it' hard to supress that , although I know I have to. anyone have any advice?
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Thanks to all the people who replied and are helping me through a difficult time. I've decided to move on but was just wondering wether to give up hope as well? I kind of feel that there was 1000's of questions unanswered and Im trying to put them out of my mind. What I hate about this is that it comes in waves , I'll be ok for a while and this aweful feeling of doom just grips me and i cant seem the shake it. Any advice on wether i should take her out on her birthday that she agreed to in nov? why would she agree? shes kinda being cold and of hand with me atm.
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well today I found out me and my ex are no more. After ten years the pain i feel at this moment is overwhelming. I told her that I like to be friends and that i will drop the subject of us. ( i went to shake her hand but she kinda held it a give me a goodbye smile) I kinda feel now that I need to move on for my own health and i weill make steps to do so even though this is so hard. looking back we never ever got a chance to explore are problems or attempt to overcome them, i think shes just had enough of trying. says she dosent love me and that itll never come back . I asked her if I could take her out on her birthday which isnt till mid Nov and she said " I dont see why not" , emotions are up in the air atm so should i see this a maybe some hope, thing is were not even really at the friend level and thers a lot of hurt, anger and distrust on both sides. anyone got any similar experiance's? any advcie woud be good thanks
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lisaria thanks for your reply I'm feeling a little better although i have my bad days, in fact had a row with my ex this week and to cut a long story she said that shed only been doing things for the kids sake and that she dosent love me. My response was to say " fine then we wont continue to be friends as this is hurting me to much" to which she replied " we will talk on saturday". question is if shes made her mind up why talk on sat?
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Hi lisaria, Man this week's been tough spent a lot of time on my own kinda just to get used to it and see these feelings through. Seen the ex today and we took the kids out and she thanked me for a good time. I'm not sure if shes being wishy washy, she actually seems more down than I am ( says she cant sleep ) and i tried to cheer her up ( and I think I did when I slipped and landing on my back =D). I've not mentioned the relationship at all but she mentioned something on wed about that we will talk again. Do you think it wise for me to mention it or leave up to her? So I guess that still leaves me in the same place but I'm trying to move on hard as it is.