bittersweetno1

It takes a long time to fix an esteem and jealousy issue. Trust- I know. I have the same problem but for different reasons. I love my boyfriend and know in my heart he would never cheat on me, but I'm always suspicous- always jealous. It's hard. But I try each day and I guess the only thing that will fix it is time and "corrective thinking." Also, it helps when my boyfriend lets me know that he thinks I am beautiful or hot or whatever. His confidence in me and my looks, give me confidence. His words help me and give me more self-esteem. I dunno what the purpose of this post is... I just thought it might be nice to know that you're not alone. Hang in there. Honestly, I don't think it will ever fully go away, but I'm pretty sure it gets better. Best of luck.

It's a tough situation, but truth be told your girlfriend is not really being fair to you. How would she like it if you were really good friends with and ex-girlfriend or something? She's on the defensive and doesn't seem to be willing to hear you out. Tell her straight out that you love, and would never want to control her or run her life, anything like that... but you are simply sharing your feelings. She's gotta respect your feelings. Also, make sure you tell her that u trust (if in fact u do), so she doesn't think it's that. It's just an uncomfortable situation. Your best bet is maybe trying to get her to see from the reverse and explain your feelings in a calm rational manner. Best of luck.