dida

He said that he wants you to be "occasional" friends and you're just "reacting".. you asked him for your pass and he mailed it to you... nothing wrong about that.. i think you had every right to ask him for "all" your things back since he started it all anyway and gave you your clothes back that night... And then.. you said that when you asked his friend what was wrong with him.. he told you all about his dating you right after his divorce.. and i think this should tell you something with all the posts over here that told you to see someone new... Maybe 12 months ago he was trying to get over his divorce and forget how he felt about his ex-wife and you just appeared in his life.. you went out and you did have a nice time together.. you loved him.. whether he did love you too or not isn't sure.. but even if he did feel something for you.. it could be not very true.. it could be that he was emotionally unstable at that time and you were nice and you got close and that's it and that's all...! I'm not sure whether this conclusion is right.. but i'm positive that you should try your best not to think about him.. i know it won't be easy to forget him right away and i know it will take time... but however don't call him to say you miss him or whatever.. he never does and if he wanted to he would have just done that!!! Try to find new things you like.. think about the things you've always wanted to do and never had the time.. now you're free and now you have it so do them..! Time will pass and you'll understand things better.. you'll be calmer and things will get clear.. he may call or he may not.. but don't hope he will.. let go.. he's doing that!! dida

You know you don't need no advice! you're determined! You're sure you love him and that you don't want to leave him for what your mum says.. I think that she'll learn to accept it when she knows how happy you are with him.. and apparently she already does a bit or else how could you be talking every hour of the day (i guess not without her knowing!).. after all she only wants the best for you and if he's a good guy then she'll let you be with him... Best of luck

You really should tell this friend that you're engaged.. if he's been good to you so far then at least you owe him that truth.. Going out with you knowing you're single could eventually give him ideas about more than just friends (especially if he thinks you're nice and he's starting to feel things for you).. and because you don't know how it will progress then you should make things clear for him so that he doesn't let it go too far if he wants more... But most importantly.. i think that you should ask yourself one direct question: "Would you have wanted him as a friend if your fiance was right there with you?" If the answer's NO and you're sure of it.. then always keep in mind that nothing's worth losing the one you love.. so don't risk it! And maybe even tell your fiance about it when he's back.. dida

You're right... it could be very difficult to find things to talk about with someone who doesn't tell you nothing about herself... but just think that she may be shy.. and most probably she still doesn't have full confidence in you. So i suggest (that's of course if you really want to get to know her) that you start telling her about yourself.. things you like and things you don't.. try telling her about your hobbies.. where you like to hang out and what you like to do.. she'll get to talk.. at least she'll comment about the things you're telling her and this way you'll start, bit by bit, to know more about her and form some image of what she might be.. then you could tell her what you think of her and what you got to know.. and if she's interested then she'll sure want to tell you whether you're right or wrong in what you think of her.. And i'm not telling you that this is easy.. but then - again - it all depends on whether you really want to know her or she's just like any chat friend and you might as well talk to anyone else...