I promised myself to come back to this forum if I ever did get back together with my ex, which is why I'm here now we've been together for 3 weeks already and this new relationship with him is just going so much more better than the old.
We broke up officially in November, not even a week into my NC he started dating another girl and giving her all I wanted out of him. I was heartbroken. Really heartbroken. I ended up needing therapy and pulled myself out of depression.
Honestly though I wouldn't have changed the events that happened I went from miserable codependant with a boyfriend that didn't give me anything to having 2 jobs, back in college and on track to get my own car and apartment again.
I also was seeing someone else I thought was much better than my ex until earlier this month, he was the sweetest thing in the world at first, and then he started showing some abusive qualities my ex's timing was great, I can't say that I would've stayed away from the new guy after he promised change and seemed to be the sweetheart I first met.
We openly talk about our "rebounds" his was more of a rebound than mine... I learned he met the girl off Tinder and moved fast out of loneliness, but the relationship was solely based on their children getting along.
Quite honestly, if the other guy didn't show these red flags(hitting and throwing the cat, throwing things at me, being overly possessive after 1 month, etc) I would've stayed with him. I do miss him still. I just hope I'm not actually rebounding off him with my ex...
I made my ex bend over backwards to come back too, and to show he changed for the better. So far so good
This thread helped me a lot during my healing process, I'd read it for hope that he'd return until I no longer needed that hope as a crutch and walked away. I believe that's what helped him to come back, just me letting go of any possibility and living in what's going on in the present. So thanks everyone who's written their stories on here, and who's given me support.