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lisaria, thanks alot i totally agree with you and that is what i said to him that i wished he had told me so that we couldve have spent the last 3 weeks working things out instead of me growing more and more confused and him disliking me more and more...ive decided that its just because hes too immature to take a step back and look at things reasonably... instead of realizing somethings wrong and putting in some effort to make it better...he just gets rid of the problem. this site has helped me so much though ive decided im going to give him alot of space, like no contact but still saying hi when i see him at school and at parties...i want to be nice but also let him have as much space as he possibly needs weve always been really good friends even for a long time before we went out so i see us as eventually getting along very very well ...haha i hope thats how it goes anyways hell be gone for the summer so i figure thatll help both of us maybe i should try to talk to him when he gets back in august? just to let him know i want to hear about his trip and that i care? i dont care if this will sspark a realtionship or just a friendship but i want us to have some sort of relationship already this friday im going to a party i know he will be at itll be hard but i think i know how i need to act, ill act like my usual fun self and say hi and be polite but wait for him to talk to me...and if he doesnt then his loss thanks again do you think im going about this the right way?

sometimes u just have to make sure u r completley relaxed and comfortable in order to enjoy it i know for me sometimes when i feel insecure its not as good for me. try turning the lights off or anything that can make you feel more at ease. dont be nervous because that ruins it too. also, definitely try different positions sometimes from being on top, you can do different things to make it feel better for you too. but you really need to let him know how you feel, you dont want something that can really be fixed this easily to ruin a good relationship. also, ask him if he can maybe try doing you manually or orally if you are comfortable with that...some girls need that instead of sex. you also may just need to go longer than him? see if going twice in a row would maybe help?

my boyfriend of 7 months just recently told me that he did not like me anymore. he asked for a break and we took one for the weekend. i had no clue what he wanted from this break or what had made him feel this way. three days later, i asked him why he hadnt told me how hed felt the multiple times in the past month or two that i questioned what was wrong with him. he replied he wasnt sure and he supposed that he wanted to see if things would change. i told him i wished hed told me this so i couldve done things differently and been aware of how he was feeling. i asked him what changed and he said that i had started to annoy him and he didnt feel the way that he did before. the bieginning of our relationship was really intense. we talked constantly on the phone and sometimes wouldnt even sleep-wed talk all night. he says he wants it that way again. but i dont believe him i feel like he wants more than a break because originally he said he wanted a "short break" but when i talked to him again he said he didnt want to be together and that he is "sure that he will like me in the future" but probably not any time soon. how can someone be sure they will like someone in the future??? you cant, right? i really love him and i feel like hes confused. five minutes after we broke up, we had an hour conversation that was completely normal and alot like when we had first been going out....then the next day at school he would walk by my classes and look in to see me. i find this frustrating because i feel we should be fixing things instead of just ignoring them...i want to give him time alone but at the same time i dont think it will help. what should i do over the summer? should i move on? or not, because it could ruin any chances of getting back together? does this sound like he wants a break to "re-spark" things as he said, or do you think that he wants apart for good??? i know i want to be friends but ive never gone through this before and dont know how to act...i know i want to stay close with him so we dont forget about each other over the summer. but i need to know if i should ask him to try things again and try to work them out...or if i should give him the summer and then ask??? should i eventually ask him to hang out alone as friends? or should i just ignore him completely??what should i do???? -confused and really sad