Walkedoveragain

No, im not afraid to be alone. Im scared that if i throw it all away i will realise i have made a mistake.... I dont know if i can be 2nd best to his ex-girlfriend which is how ive been feeling recently (if you read my previous post).

Thanks Roffler. I think im already "too attached"! I guess i need time to think about the future. He just emailed me to say "maybe your right, we should both have a think about what we are doing and where we are going...". I think we just need to have a long talk together, face to face instead of by email. He is due to visit in a couple of weeks (after the wedding he couldnt attend!) so I suppose we should sit down and talk then. Hopefully i should have my head together by then.

he replied saying "ok, let me know when your finished". Im very confused (you will see my previous posts). I dont know what i want and i think this is only fair to tell him that i need time to think. I love him very much but dont know what i want anymore. I feel torn and i am upset. So what now? Can anyone help me sort my confused mind out please?

P.S you say your "ex" was this inevitably the cause of your break up?

Thanks for your reply. I dont know whether to end the relationship as I feel he has put his ex first. I think the least he couldve done is to say to her it was tough and she should cancel her plans but he wouldnt do this. I feel I deserve better than i feel he can give me and as long as he is not prepared to stand up to his ex Im not sure whether I can carry on. I have had more tears than laughter in this relationship recently and a i dont think its worth it..... On the other hand i love him very much and when we are together we get on so well. I think im going to have to take some time to think about things.

I don't know where to start. After my previous posts, me and my boyf have been getting along a lot better. We decided to take things slow and enjoy each other's company. Until last night! My boyf picked his son up from his ex-girlfriend and he reminded her he was at my brother's wedding in 2 weeks time (this has been arranged since March). She said she he didn't tell her (I know he did) and that she had booked to go abroad that weekend with her daughter (from a previous relationship) and that he would have to look after their son. Children are not allowed at my brother's wedding and now my boyf cannot attend. I feel so disappointed and let down we have both been looking forward to this for weeks. His ex has no consideration for our relationship and I wonder why she didn't ask my boyf if he had any plans before she booked to go away as he does with her. She knows we are in a LDR and only see each other on a weekend (approx every 3-4 weeks apart). I tried to reason with my boyf in that he needs to put his foot down with her and he said this wouldn't help, she is going away and that's that. Im just venting I suppose but wonder if any other members have similar problems with their partner's exes and how do they feel about this and overcome it?

Well, i have tried to give him space. I didnt contact him last night and he texted me but it wasnt all that inspiring.... I will see what happens today. I feel like im 2nd best in his life. I understand and am happy to be 2nd best to his son but when it comes to his ex (& mother of his child) i feel like he is treating her better than me and maybe he still has issues with her (although he denies this). I am not happy being 2nd best to his ex. In our last telephone conversation he said he had problems committing but told me that doesnt mean he doesnt want to be with me... I can just see the end coming and maybe it would be better all round if I broke up with him first. I love and respect him but he hasnt been treating me all that well over the last couple of weeks, coincidentally (or not!) his ex broke up with her boyf about the time things started to go wrong. Should i be the one to end it?

This will have to be short as im at work. Been dating boyf of 7 months (LDR) he has a young son. I just know he wants to finish things but I think he is too nice and cant say the words to me. Ive had all the signs (less contact, "its not you its me" etc etc) but hes not actually said he wants to end our relationship. Things moved pretty quickly and I think he has got it in his head that I want more. I am happy with things as they are for the time being and love and care for him very much. What can I do to repair the relationship?