Work Colleague

Okay here goes.

I started working at my current office a year ago,

There is a cute guy who works there.

I am attracted to him. I have asked him to drinks which he refused and then to a another work function which he initally accepted then turned down - his only reason being he had to be "fair" whatever that means.

We flirt and play mind games / tease each other constantly.

He is sort of seeing someone and I know I sound like a moron but I still like the fool. He is always interested in the details of my life and seems to get jealous when I got out with other guys. If I joke around with other colleagues he is always suspiciously curious and practically told me he has not made friends with me on purpose. This hurts. how on earth do I deal with it and let him go?

We get along SO well - I have never met anyone who is so much like me and makes me laugh so much - we eat lunch together every day and I live for the moments when we get to talk. I know he is attracted to me which makes the situation so much worse.

He keeps telling me how he can't be friends with a work aquaintance. *sigh*

I wanted to leave my job as it was hurting so much but I dont really want to be the one to run away.

Wow...so eerily similar to my situation (cept my guy and I are friends and he socialises with us). Unfortunately though he sounds a little too committed to his job and isn't ready to give that up. I can't really honestly say how to get over him cause I'm not over mine yet...but maybe if you just back off a little bit it might get him more interested? For instance...you eat lunch with him every day...skip a day here and there perhaps. The only other suggestion I could make would be to keep your options and eyes open to other 'attractive' temptations. Plainly and simply if he's not interested in taking it that extra step there's not a lot you can do. Enjoy the flirting I say...and you never know what a bit of time can do.

GOOD LUCK!

Betty!

His reasons for not pursuing something with you are valid: he's seeing someone, plus he's leery about getting involved with a work acquaintance. I am afraid I have to advise what the other poster did - back off. You can't force someone to take action, either he will change his mind or he won't.

lol okay so Ive accepted that he is not interested...

just have a problem, - he went away on leave - It was heaven!!!!!

no more arguments / flirting just peace.

only problem - he is back and I actually feel physically ill - upset stomache, I am so stressed, I am getting red patches on my skin - should I avoid him or carry on eating lunch with our common friends and him in the hope I will be descenitised?

I think its a bad idea to hook up with someone you meet at work. Your boss might accuse you are flirting too much and not working enough (even if thats not true, that perception may come accross). Also, what if your romance doesn't work out...then you are stuck going to work and seeing someone who you don't like.....that would be awkward....also, if he is in a committed relationship you have no right to flirt with him...thats wrong!!!!