Meanie

lol okay so Ive accepted that he is not interested... just have a problem, - he went away on leave - It was heaven!!!!! no more arguments / flirting just peace. only problem - he is back and I actually feel physically ill - upset stomache, I am so stressed, I am getting red patches on my skin - should I avoid him or carry on eating lunch with our common friends and him in the hope I will be descenitised?

Okay here goes. I started working at my current office a year ago, There is a cute guy who works there. I am attracted to him. I have asked him to drinks which he refused and then to a another work function which he initally accepted then turned down - his only reason being he had to be "fair" whatever that means. We flirt and play mind games / tease each other constantly. He is sort of seeing someone and I know I sound like a moron but I still like the fool. He is always interested in the details of my life and seems to get jealous when I got out with other guys. If I joke around with other colleagues he is always suspiciously curious and practically told me he has not made friends with me on purpose. This hurts. how on earth do I deal with it and let him go? We get along SO well - I have never met anyone who is so much like me and makes me laugh so much - we eat lunch together every day and I live for the moments when we get to talk. I know he is attracted to me which makes the situation so much worse. He keeps telling me how he can't be friends with a work aquaintance. *sigh* I wanted to leave my job as it was hurting so much but I dont really want to be the one to run away.

thanks 4 the reply shari!

Don't ever feel inferior... sex is just an act like brushing your teeth, wot I mean to say is you can have sex tomorrow the next day if you REALLY wanted to, but its not worth it to have meaningless sex I reckon, I am a 26 year old and am still techniqully a virgin lol or not... I slept with woman for the first time recently but my point is, when that right person comes along and you feel totally comfortable with them, it will just happen naturally, you won't have to force yourself, strange I ALWAYS felt almost "non human" because I had never experienced sex, because I wasn't like everyone else, and I know I am a little younger than you but my advice to you is get out and meet people.. as many woman as you can (if you are sure you are not attracted to guys - otherwise try explore that option) eventually you might come accross one with which you have that "spark", that "connection"... its easy to just go around sleeping with people but why would u want to?, I know you are shy but u can work on that... the more you are around people, the more comfortable you will be with them, make lots of new friends etc... maybe see a psychologist, perhaps there is something stopping you from being with women? and NEVER NEVER NEVER EVER believe that there is anything wrong with you for being a virgin, you are as worthy a human being as any other on the planet... trust me! and when one day you have sex, u won't really be any different a person than you are stitting there today... its will just have been an act you did, I think people make SUCH a bloody big deal about sex that they make you believe you are weird or whatever for not doing it.... I say do it in your own time when U feel comfortable... trust takes a while to build up to, I am sure you will find someone out there!!!!! and after reading some of potter's strange posts I guess I should add that I had never even kissed anyone till I was 24.... made worse by the fact that the first person I told was afraid of kissing?!?!?!?!? so that person and I neva kissed... I finally got the guts to tell another ... and the rest is history.... I always felt like a DOUBLE TRIPLE freak for that (having never been kissed) but l survived.... I believe God helped me and u just have to be patient and never stop loving yourself no matter how freakish / sad you feel inside... Learning to TRUST other humans is the biggest problem Ive ever had in my life... on the other side now I feel free.... there is nothing I fear anymore.... which is SO completely different from fearing everything... just hold in there guys! ps kissing is not such a big deal... just go for it, it will come natrually to you lol I think its like a reflex action or whatever it just happens...

*Rolls eyes* x 1000 but I appreciate u at least answering oh please, what a "male" relpy, LMAO... "true lesbians" what exactly makes u the judge of wot a true lesbian is? I was just looking for an answer as to how lesbians define sex, point taken.... I do appreciate ur comments but yip I guess I was asking other lesbians. I know a lot who don't enjoy penetration & was wondering if fingering someone was sex. I come from a str8 background and to me it never was "sex" just fooling around but in my current situation it means so much more. I guess I am having my mind & thoughts "rearranged" according to new experiences, just trying to set myself str8 so to speak

Is it penetration? Oral sex?

thanks for ur input........ out of curiosity how do you people feel about homosexuality.... how do u feel about this post? if u are str8 is it possible str8 ppl are more close - minded than gay people? Because I have asked this question at other sites and most gay people seem to be more receptive....... I have issues with the way some gay ppl choose to live their lives........ this whole situation has me questioning societies beliefs as well as lifestyle choices. NOT THAT I am against being gay but it has confused me a little - that wot would be acceptable in gay society is not in str8 society etc........ maybe gay people are better off or not I dunno Ill go have a Long think about it... as 4 the girl I think it will probably stay as friendship unless she decides it should change...........

I am a 26 year old woman attracted to a 17 year old woman. Can such a relationship ever work??????? I never thought I would ever find myself in such a situation. I feel like its wrong even though she is extremely mature for her age!

I met this girl, we were friends we kissed quite a few times We didnt see each other for a month I realised I had feeling for her I called her. we started seeing each other (as friends) then it became friendship with benefits. She wanted to go further ( i am female ) I am a virgin told her I had feelings 4 her indirectly.... she told me she was not attracted 2 me.... We became friends without benefits. I see her because we have friends in common. She flirts with me, sometimes visits me. My friends says she definitely likes me. I also know she does.. she gets jealous when I other women flirt with me, follows me around etc. I am trying to date other people now and I am confused by this yo-yo. Should I initiate something or wait for her. I dont want to be hurt by her but I know I love her. to be or not to be? wot on earth must I do?

I met this wonderful person via e-mail but was sent a photo and I got a big shock. Am I a terrible person. Surely what someone looks like on the outside has nothing to do with what they are on the inside. How can I change my mind. I feel awful about being this way. I hate myself for it.