pixelyzed

I just wanted to say I understand your situation completely and am myself struggling with the decision of whether or not to leave my husband. Just wanted you to know you not alone here it's a very big choice with possible consequences but if you're not happy in the marriage you should really look hard at the pros and cons of staying or going without thinking about the g/f. I don't think theres really any advice that anyone can give you to make it easier just follow your heart and what you feel. I wish you luck and hope everything works out for you. It's tough but I just keep telling myself it's going to work out in the end, but I do think your wife deserves you to be honest with her about it. I plan on telling my husband just because even though I've been dishonest and unfaithful to him I don't want to carry this forever knowing I was a liar. Good luck to ya ~Pixelyzed

yes I have tried talking to him about it numerous times but he's not much on talking about anything without just getting mad. The hard part is he is deployed right now and yes I know that makes me seem like a horrible person even more for cheating during this. Since he left everytime he gets a chance to call we do nothing but argue which to me is even worse since we haven't seen each other in 5 months. I would think he would be happy to talk to me rather then argue about petty things. Anyways I have brought up my unhappiness to him and the only response I get is "I won't let you divorce me" so I just don't know. Anyways thanx for the responses guys it's good to not feel alone. Pixelyzed

Reading through the forums the advice here seems to be great so I only hope someone can help me. I've been with my husband for 5 years married 3 1/2 and have been unhappy for some time now. He is military and isn't home very much which leaves me to be pretty lonely most of the time, considering when he is home he spends no time with me. We have to young children together and I've honestly tried everything to keep us together but I'm tired of being the only one who tries here. I recently met someone on ICQ (which just so you all know I usually never talk to anyone I don't know on there) but for some reason I talked to this person. That was 5 months ago and after about a month we did meet in person and just clicked so well. He is everything my husband isn't and more. I've seriously considered divorce not to be with this other person although we are going to stay together but for myself I feel our relationship is over. I have always stuck by my husbands side through all he has put me and our children through. Even though he hasn't been there for me I feel very wrong for cheating I have never even thought about doing so before I don't quite know what drove me to do it now. Then again part of me is happy I had the chance to meet such a wonderful guy so I guess my ? would be am I wrong for giving up now should I keep trying in hopes things will turn around? I'm very worried about this because I wanted my children to be able to grow up with both of us together. I will appreciate any feed back from you guys. Thanks a bunch Pixelyzed