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A tough nut to crack, and a much more common problem than you think. I don't think the age gap is a problem, the problem is you are in love with her. If you approach her with your feelings, and she says something hurtful, well I don't know what you are like and how well you handle these things, but it could drive you into a deep depression depending on how you handle these things. So if you can think of broaching the topic more discreetly, in a way that doesn't really set you up for rejection, this might be a good option. Something like "What do you think about older girls and younger guys?", or something like that (just off the top of my head). And don't tell her your feelings at work, it could ruin your day. Tell her when you guys are out and her boyfriend isn't around. Older women do tend to like younger guys, but the majority of them are already hooked up with more mature guys. A friend of mine, 22, had sex with an engaged 31 year old in his car, she practically screwed him, he didnt even ask for anything. So older women have definitely got it on. You shouldn;t be thinking about getting serious with a girl this age, the gap is too large, so wipe it out of your mind. If you have your mind set on something short term, like a one night stand or something, then I would keep going for it. Send her sms's or phone her up from time to time. Try and get her on a weekend when her boyfriend is away, or wait for them to break up. Or better yet, find another woman!!!

btw thanks marshall for the cool link, it is quite funny. Well Mercutio you're not in the easiest situation. Marshall has raised a couple of important points, I'll try and build on them. I'm not a psychologist or anything, but I'll do my best. Yes, try and move on from the relationship. Your ex doesnt seem to be that interested to speak with you about meaningful things any more, which is exactly not what you need. She has moved on, you need to move on too. You must have some interests, everybody has interests. There are bound to be cultural groups or societies in your area catering for your needs. Look them up in your local newspaper or on the net or something. This is a great way to meet like-minded individuals you are most likely to feel comfortable with. If you see frequenting bars as the only way out, then you might be up against a wall, because I guess in places like that the most commonly discussed things might well be things like sports, etc, as you mentioned. Now that you have broken up, don't feel so down in the dumps about it! See it as an opportunity for personal growth and a door that will open up new experiences for you. There are millions of women out there, and there are bound to be many for you. If you are worried about your weight (I sense you are), consider altering your diet, seeing a dietitian, and perhaps starting on a simple excercise program involving light excercise (walking medium distance). You will start seeing differences soon and you will likely gain some self-confidence out of it. Confidence arises from achieving things you haven't done before, so set yourself goals and try your hardest to achieve them. It lifts you, and the happier you are, the more likely you are to be successful (in all aspects of your life). A little about myself. In high school I felt like I was going nowhere. I was the subject of ridicule, had few friends and minimal social life, and little direction. In the last year of school, I got my shit together, worked my arse off, and got into medical school. I graduate and will be a doctor in about 4 months' time. I have come full circle, from a real loser to someone who feels he has achieved something. It may not be much in the greater scheme of things, but it lifts me when I look back at my personal growth in terms of relationships, work ethic etc. It wasnt easy for me either, I still have anxiety problems and suffer from depression, but you learn to kick it aside and remind yourself that you only live once and that just because you stop and dont feel like continuing, life carries on whether you like it or not. So you might as well get out of that apartment and get in on the act! I don't know how useful this advice is, probably not very useful... Perhaps you could speak to some people at work, they know you better and would be able to help if you open up to some of them. But good luck anyway, let me know how it's going. Email me if you like. nadir

A lot of guys were giving me crap for trying to go for this 16 year old chick (she's a model) - I am 23. If you look at her, she looks like an 18 year old, and she is nearly my height (I am 181cm she is about 175), and is really well developed. Most of my friends didnt like the thought, including my ex-girlfriend, but some of my other friends thought that as long it is legal to have sex with her, it's o.k.... So I'm not too worried about seeing her. What I am worried about is my parents meeting her, because intellectually she is lightyears behind me.

hi i'm 23 and from south africa whats been said is true, but what i want to stress has already been covered. I have discovered in the last couple of years that it doesnt pay to sit around and wait for the girls to come to you, because, realistically, unless you are tom cruise or something, it ISN'T GONNA HAPPEN. What you have to do is get out there and MINGLE. Every weekend, you should be out in pubs, bars, clubs with 1 or 2 like-minded friends who are also looking for women. It's a simple fact that the more shots you fire, the more likely you are to hit the target - the more you go out, the more likely you are to score with women. If you never fire your gun, you can't get women. Also, the more you go out, the more you learn about flirting skills, reading womens' body language, etc (which can be a pain for beginners - I am still struggling). So, get out there and make it happen! Life was never meant to be easy for guys, but that's the way it is! Good luck