smackie9

You have been preyed upon already...guys like him prey upon the vulnerable, emotionally weakened by abusive relationships. He's taking advantage of your emotional situation...that's what they seek out....that's what he is doing. You are a danger to yourself because you are considering being with this guy. We are telling you to protect yourself and stay away from him. You need to heal with therapy, and time...and to gain the knowledge to know when you are being lied to/taken advantage of. If you don't the cycle continues and maybe to the point you are trapped, hurt or even murdered. Please take care of yourself.

You feel the reality of it...we all move on and have other relationships after out first. Life is a crap shoot...things go the way they go...it's just the way it is. Go with the flow...if it works out it works out...if it doesn't it's not the end of the world.

You are wasting your time girl. You go out and meet someone irl...someone you can actually see, touch, be with.

This is no time to cry over spilt milk...enjoy the new baby.

As soon as you hear "domestic violence" you disengage yourself from him forever. He was a $%^& show back then and is now. You did the right thing by ending it...a very wise choice at 20 years old. Now that you are older, you should know better than to being involved in someone with such a history of violence and a disregard for the law. He's dangerous.

How's your social life? You have friends you hang out with?

You deeply regret...getting caught because if you didn't get caught you would have kept doing it. You knew it was wrong and how it would have hurt her. You have no clue...you are the one that's supposed to LISTEN. Once a woman knows she's heard, and supported, all will be a peace. But I have a feeling, your narcissistic view/attitude towards her, you will never get to that point of understanding how a relationship truly works and how to work together. She must really care about you, because her inviting you to join her in therapy is her way of wanting to make this work....but there's no way it will with your present state of mind/attitude. You keep rejecting, you lose.

True story....This man knows my husband...this man's wife kept telling him she was going on "girls only trips" but oddly to Indianapolis. Why this man didn't pick up on it is beyond me...but anyways after months of this, he figured out the affair from her leaving her laptop open to an email page. Divorce is now pending. The man she was having an affair with had his own nature show...turns out he is psycho /possessive cray cray. She left him and tried to hoover her husband back...he ain't having any of it.

You are just a backup plan...don't let her try to hoover you back.

You don't see but I do.

There are times you need to be a little aloof/distant, and not so eager to please. Let them earn it. Women like a little challenge. Taking the lead is all you need to do...not spend mounds of money to have them like you.

Talk to a lawyer! She is still at an age where she can find employment. She can't refuse to work unless she claims disability...if it's mental, that's your lead into getting full custody.

Leave. Been there....it doesn't get better.

Possessiveness and jealousy isn't love

She's a cougar that's planning to pounce.