tattoobunnie

Speaking as someone with ADHD married to someone with ADHD, both in high level positions, she can go get a J-O-B. She is just stalling with the worst excuse possible as she mooches off of you. Just because you have been with someone for a decade, does not mean they get you should love them unconditionally. Nor does it mean, she'd never cheat. Her entire life consists of gaming now. Let me guess, World of Warcraft? This is not going to get better with you enabling her behavior. You finance her gaming lifestyle; I hope you realize this.

Did she have a gun pointed at you? Did she tell you to go shopping? If your kid was getting surgery done, you don't go home. The only point you go home is after the baby is born. Let's hope you learn from this, speaking as a parent who was in labor for 66 hours with the first kid, and 33 with the 2nd. And on Pitocin for both...who's husband stayed with me the entire time. It doesn't matter if she said go take a shower, which they have at the hospital btw...you could have just come back on your own like an adult. Stop blaming her and your MIL for your own choices.

I am not sure what was nasty in the advice the one commenter gave you. You pick bad dudes, and do not trust your gut. You find out a man was a ex-felon on your own with sexual abuse charges, and you still aren't sure if you should date this person. Some people, like you, need tough love. No one here is going to tell you to just overlook it. He is an adult who makes criminal choices, and takes no accountability for it, and didn't even disclose it to you so he can get you in the sack.

Why in the world didn't you just come back, and wait in the waiting room? And yes, you are being selfish. A baby comes out when the baby comes out. I have had two babies, and trust me, when you are close to pushing, you aren't calling anyone on the phone. You decided to leisurely go home and do whatever you wanted. WOW! If my husband did that, I would have thrown all his stuff out the window when we got home. No one is going to call you when they are pushing. Holy cow...I am mad at you for her. My advice. LET it GO. And just focus on the baby, and giving mom time to recoup.

I would give your hubs some time to come around. It's not an issue of what you might do. It's an issue of why didn't you tell him right away. You bottled it up with your one your boyfriend, and you are doing it again with your husband. Figure out why you do this. Could be from a parent that always made you feel shameful for expressing yourself...or a dynamic where you had to be the golden child, so your folks wouldn't fight. Either way, reassure your husband, no more secrets. And give him a moment to decompress.

I disagree here. You should always be honest with your needs, and tell your partner what you need. It's up to them to make the effort, and up to the requester to understand where they are coming from. Compromise and communication counts. It takes time and experience to adult, which includes growing into being in a healthy, long lasting relationship. Expecting someone to just know what to do all the time sets everyone up for failure.

It take a few years to really get to know someone. To see what they are like on their best days, worst days, how they treat others, their friends, their family. Losing or gaining a job, losing a loved one. How they are on vacations, travels, etc. You are in your 30's and should know if they are right for you. So if you don't feel they are a right fit, they aren't. I don't think you are confusing that anxious, butterfly feelings with love and connection. I think this is more of a matter that maybe she doesn't always get you, or you can't always be yourself around her, or maybe her sense of humor is odd. Or you don't like the way she handles money, etc. I would think more about it, or time to call it quits. It's not about the girl you dated in your early 20's. It just you recognizing she may not be the one for you. But if she makes you feel like home, then it could just be you self-sabotaging a good thing. I would take a week apart, and see how you feel. Like a trip somewhere with just family; nothing debaucherous; that helps no one in this case.

They don't work with any single straight men as well? No associations, member groups, volunteer groups with men in them? Sounds like you've never asked them.

Looks do not matter. It's opportunity and a numbers game. Have all your friends set you up with people. My buddy did all the apps! All the apps. But found a great man through Facebook dating. He's great. Just met him. They've been going steady for months now. Before they met, he was ready to give up on dating.

I sometimes can't recall what day of the week it is, or at the drop of the hate, how many years I've been married. I would just ask him directly, instead of doing all the assumptions he is trying to one up you, or pull a fast one. He may have just given you the date they file for divorce. In many states in the US, you need to be separated for a few year. Or he blurted out the wrong year by mistake, because he was thinking when he first found out she cheated on him. Not everyone is crystal clear on traumatic events, so I would 100% let it go, and instead focus on why after these years, and a baby, the one year difference matters, and why you couldn't just ask him about it.

I think everything untrue. There are plenty of conventional not good looking people who have zero emotional intelligence, and many conventional good looking people in happy relationships with children. And there are plenty of "good looking" people who never figure it out. How you were raised and or shown how to handle conflict, compromise, and how you view of yourself is what makes a difference. At my age though, I find most people beautiful; you just gotta really look.

Not really. Far too many put someone on a pedestal. He's already told you he doesn't want to marry you, and he's okay for you to turn your life upside down in case he may change his mind. That's not how relationships with a strong foundation work.

Grown-arse men learn to not be obvious at all...you won't even notice. Been married for 13+ years now...I have never once seen my hubs check out another woman, once, and I know he's not blind.

He's put you in an impossible situation on purpose. And this is a major disagreement. Don't move. He does not prioritize you at all. He does not prioritize your needs, your comfort, or you at all. In 5 years, he'll come up with another excuse.

Be the positive change. People leave a job for many reasons. And the CEO grilling you, it's to see how you do under pressure. If you want to be in the big leagues, you need to learn how to rise above with less than pleasant people. I mean, if you want happy and easy, then take on a less of a challenge. My hubs has worked for million to a few multibillion companies - there's also a dysfunction the higher up you go, and always an opportunity to make it better.