Yea for you and thanks for your comment. I joined this forum especially to communicate with you. Last weekend on Mother's day we had a "everything but the kitchen sink thrown in" type of argument.
The first time my husband cheated he cried,he denicd(but I had him and her on video tape- audio no video because they were out of the view of the camera) and I left and went to my parents house for what I thought was going to be forever and ended up being two weeks. This was in 1/98 with my two year old in tow. My father tried to be supportive but he was rather verbally abusive about my husbands lack of character etc.and started making suggestions that I found entertaining but not really in grounded in reality.
So if you are comfortable with your friend's offer for a place to stay while you go for therapy,think,cry, and FIGURE OUT what to do next do it----- do it!!!! I might have been stronger and stayed away to truly figure out my life if I hadn't had my po'd father to listen to instead of crumbling and returning to my husband two weeks later with his promise to enter marriage counseling and do whatever it took to keep our child and I and him together as a family. This is a brief description of the first infidelity. So be comfortable with yourself and what you want and what you want to do right at this moment. What you have witnessed with your own two eyes far surpasses my audio portion of an attempted video of betrayal. Keep your eyes wide open!! I still do!!!!