yeah

[elithepi]

I've been trying to get it together.

It's been two months since I was dumped over the phone over a relationship that started out real easy and casual but then I moved away and the long distance thing made her feel a lot of pressure.

I have since quit my job.

I'm back somewhat close to her.

I've made the typical * * * of myself over the phone. And have been able to get it together enough to have some conversation with her since.

I'm still head over heels over this girl. We dated for a year and a half.

It's like no time has past since I last saw her. I have not gotten any face to face closure.

It's like we're still together in my head.

We never had any fight or argument at all and we always laughed when we were together.

I'm spinning wheels here and don't know what to do.

I could step right back into the relationship without missing a step.

I feel like a schmuck, a push over, a looser.

I'm having the hardest time to let go.

I was even married for 5 years before and this is so much harder.

Oh well....I'm sure my complaint is not so much different than the others.

I just want my friend back and I miss her a whole lot.

[elithepi]

Alright. I just read my own thread.

What really struck a chord with me is the line,

"It's like were still together in my head."

That's what's bugging me guys....the damn over the phone breakup and have been since denied any face to face contact.

That totally undemines my perception of what was going on in the relationship.

That is what is killing me.

I cannot accept the fact that a person of my fancy, that I chose, could hurt me.

 

 

All the pain, we do to ourselves.

It's not the mate. It's us.

And all this hurt we feel is actually our disappointment of ourselves.

[finewhine]

All the pain, we do to ourselves.

It's not the mate. It's us.

And all this hurt we feel is actually our disappointment of ourselves.

 

How true! Half of any breakup is a battle with our own dashed pride and ego.