asking out a co-worker

[scotty77]

Everyone knows the risks involved with asking out someone you work with.If she says no then you have to see her often and that could be uncomfortable.There is a woman at work who is older than me and while we get along well I think she would be surprised by my romantic interest.I know she is single and has shown some signs that she might be interested but because of her age I don't think she suspects that I am.Anyway should I ask her out and take the consequences or just forget about her?

[addictedblue]

depends on how much you like her! if she's that easy to forget than don't bother, but if you can't get her off your mind by all means do!

[musicguy]

forget about her. It's really risky to ask a co-worker out, for one thing, you're gonna be around them all the time, plus what would happen if you two break up?? I wouldn't do it

[scotty77]

Well I am definitely interested and don't want to miss an opportunity ,if she is possibly interested.I think I am going to go for it.We don't work side by side all the time but only sporadically.

[emit_remmus]

I'm in the same boat as you man, shes maybe 4 years older than me and has worked there along time, and I like my work because of her and a few others; if they weren't there, I'd probably find the job stressful and boring.

 

Here are our options:

1) Continue the current relations as work mates by simply working with each other

2) Carry friendly relations outside of work by simply taking a break together

3) Pursue romantic relations by asking her out to dinner

 

The worst that could happen is she will giggle or look at funny if she says no to you.

 

My fault is analyzing the situation in the first place, and I believe I made a mistake tonight, but lets talk about your situation in your thread.

[scotty77]

I don't really have any other prospects at the moment.Maybe I could just try the ''friend '' approach for awhile.

[scotty77]

I am also way too analytical .If she says ''no'' at least I can say I tried.

[emit_remmus]

We need to stop being thinkers and just learn to do it. Sometimes I can do this, but I want to feel secure other times.

[scotty77]

Yes,I have analyzed situations to death or until the point in which the moment was lost and I missed out on the opportunity .

[emit_remmus]

I will PM you.