HDD Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 i havent checked my cell all day and now its 530pm and i look to see who i got missed call from and its from my ex!!!! he didnt leave any voicemail just a missed call at 12:55pm? why did he call me and break NC? i am so glad i didnt answer the call... i wouldnt know what to say. I really do want to talk to him but i dont want to sound desperate. maybe he was just checking up on me? why should he? he is the one who wanted NC? I am confused. Now i really understand why NC is necessary. My heart is pounding.... Why doesnt he just email me. ugh!! Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Chill...it's ok. You are more mysterious to him now...in the back of his mind, he's wondering, "hmmm, what is she up to? She didn't answer. She with someone else?" Don't be confused. Be empowered. He was too scared to leave a message. If he had anything to say, he would have. Act like it never happened. Link to comment
mcnani Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 theres probably a million reasosn why he did but try not to worry about any of them right now, he should have left a message if it was something important. how long ago did you break up? he may still be dealing with the anxiety of the break up..... leave it alone if it's not good for you. definitely don't call back you may be in for a trap.... if he calls again decide for yourself if u want to talk to him Link to comment
HDD Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 we broke up three weeks ago and i did call him on the first week but i was ignored. I hate being ignored. Now, he calls me! i am glad i missed that call, now he knows what i felt when he didnt answer or return my calls. Who does he think he is.... ugh, i think i am in the anger stage cause i am so mad at him right now. i wont worry about the call, i will just pretend like it never happened. i dont know what to tell him if he calls again. i feel like i barely know him anymore. three weeks might not be long but for me it really feels like months! Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 If he calls and you answer....this is bad.... Answer and when he says "hey", you say...."uh, hey, can I call you back, I'm kinda busy now." He'll say, "ok" Then let him go and don't call him back. Make him wonder. Link to comment
HDD Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 hmm, never tried that one before (and sounds like i should have). what does that do? make him wonder? i am not sure i want him back right now, so if that will make him call me more, i would rather not answer his calls at all. Link to comment
christy1002 Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Sounds like a good thing you "missed" his call! Great job on the NC! Link to comment
cordelia Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 That's a great idea elithepi! If my ex ever calls, I'm going to do that exactly! lol He'll be wondering why I'm "busy" and he'll see that he is not my priority anymore. Link to comment
HDD Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 he broke up with me, but we both saw it coming. i just couldnt let go and i have the lets work things out attitude. Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 BINGO! Cordelia, let me know how it feels if it happens. I know it seems mean but if you were dumped, well, you got a lot of chips to cash in and it's a pretty passive way of sticking it to them. Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 If he dumped you and he's calling and you're mad but don't want to say it....do it. I bet you it will drive him crazy. Geeze, can ya tell I'm a bit in the anger stage now. Link to comment
HDD Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 thanks elithepi! yeah i can tell you're a bit angry right now. were you dumped and did this happen to you? Link to comment
HDD Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 i just read your post so i am now caught up on your situation Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Oh, I was dumped alright. Never saw it coming. Totally blind sided. I've really screwed up since, too. I've called too much. I don't know the meaning of NC....lol Dumped over the phone. Does not want to see me face to face. Don't know why. Things were lovely...first relationship that ran so smoothly. She's since quit talking to me and not returned phone calls. Oh well. So yeah...the anger phase is kicking in. A lot of the misery is fading Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Getting dumped sucks a big one. Stupid people playing with us like that. Anyone got a beer? Link to comment
HDD Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 I hear ya! i could use a martini!!! Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 ooooh yeah. A dirty martini! Olives are good. Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Settling for a screw driver... Link to comment
Cindersam Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Thought I'd get in on this one. I'm in the middle of a gina tonic myself and yes it does help. I wa also dumped ove the phone after a 6 year relationshsip. I went strick NC for the first 2 months but really wanted to talk so 2 weeks ago I called him and he agreed to talk to me after the 8th (he had his kids for Christmas vacation). He said he would call. Well it's the 13th and I haven't heard anything yet. It's becoming apparent that I probably won't so I'm back in the anger stage. What a coward! Breaking up over the phone after 6 years!!! I think a face to face would help in my closure but I gue he can't even do that! Well the gin and tonic is helping anyways : ) Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Laid back... with my mind on my.... over the phone after 6 years....damn. Face to face is what I want. Hard to think someone is so shallow, especially after all the trust put into the relationship. Link to comment
Cindersam Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 I don't know your story. How long were you together? How did you mess things up in the beginning? Do you still want her back? Link to comment
elithepi Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Cindersam, Don't mean to take over HDD's thread, but.... I was with her for a year and a half...It was really nice. Always laughing. I screwed up at the beginning of the break up by freaking out and calling too much. My heart still wants her back..I've got my own thread here just recently posted. Link to comment
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