luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 I did get through it last time. I know I'll get through it this time. I really want to do better this time. I handled things so badly last time. I NEED to be SUPERDAD like SuperDave said. And that is very good advice about moving furniture around. I've already been thinking about that. About how nice it will be to have space once she moves all of her stuff out. I plan to rearrange the bedroom for sure. If your going to start with the bedroom might I say....start with new bedding also...MANLY,MAN STUFF! new,crisp sheets are the best. Link to comment
AllTornUp Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 I had actually just bought some new sheets sans flowers. They're on the bed now, but I shall wash them after she leaves so as not to smell her perfume when I lie down. Link to comment
luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 I think with all the space we let our ex's take up in our heads...we should be able to charge them rent..or at least a tax right off...lol Link to comment
rsxguy520 Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 Day 13.. woke up pretty late feeling fine. odd thing i got a voicemail from my bestfriend (the one that got me and my ex together) who i haven't talked to in such a long time. since thanksgiving. I called him back seeing what was up. he asked to hear how i was doing. i told him everything and how i was doing fine. He suddenly brought up the ex and her new guy and how he say the pic on "MYSPACE"..i guess he wanted to hear my reaction..sadly there was NO REACTION..i told him, "i don't care, and it's her life..and can we stop talking about this..i kind of killed this subject a long time ago." haha..and i think the greatest part of it, i didn't feel anything...like normally or before when someone would bring her up, i get that gut feeling of missin her or i'll feel miserable..but now i kind of just brushed it off. like nothing..its like why do we still talk about this person, Honestly???you swear like i still care!.and i felt i was being extra mature about it as well. i told him that i moved on and feeling great...and the relationship for me is no longer nothing but a learning experience. but for some odd reason i think he still thinks i care for her, which i don't anymore.. anyways im here sitting in my room typing this and doing laundry.. boy it feels so good right now, too bad its rainin here..oh well. update this later! Link to comment
pinkbunnie Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 wow day 13? i wish i can go that far without giivn in..good job rsxguy!!! hey r u from cerritos?? Link to comment
luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 good for you rsxguy! remember how good you feel right now...as this things are day by day. your doing great! proud of you. Link to comment
pinkbunnie Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 ok im gettin tempted to talk to my ex now ahhh! im feelin soo down now i cant even concentrate at work its hard we are online at work...although i deleted his sn...juss the thought he is online and not talkin to me hurts me a little.. i know i shouldnt worry or bother......but i just miss him tooo much and its killing me! Link to comment
luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 ok im gettin tempted to talk to my ex now ahhh! im feelin soo down now i cant even concentrate at work DONT... Im feeling the same way...As each day passes since braking NC, Im realizing why one shouldnt! Link to comment
pinkbunnie Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 DONT... Im feeling the same way...As each day passes since braking NC, Im realizing why one shouldnt! yeah, i know i wont....... what if he contacts me? should i reply or ignore? Link to comment
luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 yeah, i know i wont....... what if he contacts me? should i reply or ignore? IGNORE..IGNORE. I didnt ignore and now I think it was just a game to him..he knew I was moving on..IE: going on dates having fun ect.ect I caved and there was something I recall him saying that now is bugging me to death. Link to comment
luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 Im not going to beat myself up over it, but in all honesty..its bugging me. Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 17, 2007 Author Share Posted January 17, 2007 PINKBUNNIE!! DON'T MAKE ME COME OVER THERE YOUNG LADY!!!!! *sigh* -SuperDave71 Link to comment
krnelson2 Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 yeah, i know i wont....... what if he contacts me? should i reply or ignore? This is really tough pinkbunnie. I was doing so well the last week of NC and then she contacted me and I felt that I was back at square one. I wanted to respond so bad. But I got some great advice on here. Dont respond right away no matter how bad you want to. Wait a few days and at that point see if you still want to. If you respond right away your ex will know that you are still here and waiting to hear from them. It totally defeats the purpose of NC and shows them its just sham. Wait a few days and if then you still want to respond then I guess thats what you have to do, but think of the consequences before you do. What will the outcome be? Will it make you happier or sadder? My ex contacted me yesterday and I almost responded immediately, but I am going to wait at least another day to see if I still feel that way. It is the hardest thing to have them contact you and you not respond. Hang in there pinkbunnie it gets easier, but only if you want it to! Link to comment
pinkbunnie Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 IGNORE..IGNORE. I didnt ignore and now I think it was just a game to him..he knew I was moving on..IE: going on dates having fun ect.ect I caved and there was something I recall him saying that now is bugging me to death. yeah, when i dont talk to my ex he contacts me. thats how he is i guess. and i dont get that though...why does he stops talking to me and few days later he contacts me?? Link to comment
krnelson2 Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 yeah, when i dont talk to my ex he contacts me. thats how he is i guess. and i dont get that though...why does he stops talking to me and few days later he contacts me?? He gets scared that you arent there any more and contacting you is his way of knowing that you are still willing to talk to him and be "there" for him. Link to comment
pinkbunnie Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 thanks all for listening.....yeah u are right krnelson2 it is hard for them to contact u and u dont respond.....im just going to ignore it now when he tries to talk to me. its sooo hard now......but hey i'll just need to try more n b stronger Link to comment
luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 funny dave! it sucks to have to start over (NC) Link to comment
pinkbunnie Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 yeah it does.....to start all over again im mad at myself for contacting him yesterday. hahaha....i gota start all over again' Link to comment
krnelson2 Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 bunnie- I dont want to break NC with a passion right now, this challenge has been great for me. But I feel that I really need some closure right now from her. I need to tell her that I am moving on because it doesnt seem like she gets it. I want her to know that I only want her to contact me if she wants to get back together. Its more of a closure thing. Go to page 119 on this thread and read what I wrote yesterday that I thought about saying to her. Does this sound appropriate and to the point? I am willing to break NC once to get some closure from her and to tell her what it is I want, and that what she is doing is hurting me more. I plan on going back to the challenge afterword, let me know what you think. Anyone else too. SuperDave you are exempt I already got your opinion Thanks folks Link to comment
rsxguy520 Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 wow day 13? i wish i can go that far without giivn in..good job rsxguy!!! hey r u from cerritos?? hey! thanks for the reply guys!! cerritos? i live between Norwalk and Pioneer on Del Amo, right accross from Artesia High school. i mean literally accross hahaa. Link to comment
luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 WE are in the same boat pink, I didnt think much of it when he said he would call me later on sunday. I actually thought "humm, wont hold my breath" but then he calls (twice) to make plans for the rest of the day. Like I said, we had a nice day...but neither one of us has called the other since. I know its only wednesday..but that is how he was before..we would spend awsome weekends ( some weekdays) together and then I wouldnt hear from him for days..that makes me feel like he thinks im at his beck and call. yes, he does have a busy schedual..but there have been plenty of times he gets off work early and dosent make plans or call...this was the biggest problem. I feel that if he wants to be with me a 5 min phone call isnt too much to ask. Link to comment
luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 I did my closure through a letter.....I called him and asked him to stop by and pick it up..he did. this was a brake back in nov. we got back together and it was the same. so here we are. if closure is what your after make sure you can keep emotion out of it. I find writing is best..you can take your time --read....re read..edit..ect. After what just happened to me...talking in person led to other things and cheap talk as far as im concerned ( at this point anyway). big mistake! Link to comment
ahhh2jz Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 Hey all, day 13 today! i feel this getting a little bit easier everyday; i think the motivation is that i don't want to start all over at day 1 and have superdave get pissed off at me lol, i just got off school, going to start studying for a test tomorrow. The only thing i noticed though, is that while im studying, thoughts of her get to my head and its hard to concentrate.. hanging in there though Link to comment
luvmykids Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 hang in there everyone..going to lay down...not feeling well. Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 17, 2007 Author Share Posted January 17, 2007 Ahhhhh2jz, KEEP IT UP!! and as for PINKBUNNIE! I will come over there and duct tape you to the floor while luvmykids thows half-eatten twinkies at your head. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! -SuperDave71 Link to comment
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