Oddly upset about a girl

[Boughs]

I went on numerous dates with this girl, and ended in her not wanting to deal with some drama that would have been caused if we spent more time together.

 

I fell for her already. I think about her each day and wonder already. I feel like its still possible, but I don't think she will be able to reciprocate. Anyways, I like this girl a lot... almost too much and it was only 1 week of admiration, and 1 week of dates.

 

Its really gotten me upset which is odd. I don't think I've felt like that before. Really upsetting it can't work... but what is this called? I know its not love yet, and I don't lust after her... I just really want to talk to her. Its like I've grown so fond of who she is, and its ripped out beneath me.

 

I feel more distraught of "losing" her than I did with my break-up with my ex of almost 2 years.

[Relationship Coach]

You feel this way because you feel that you were not given a chance. The good thing is, she ended it when she did. Another week or two and you would have been worse off. Broken eggs are always best discovered while you are still at the grocery store.

 

RC

[Alabama]

At this stage, it was juts infatuation. Nothing more. You really did want to get a chance to get to know this girl, and you didn't get it. So that is where the frusteration lies. But you'll move on. Eventually the infatuation will "fizzle".

[Boughs]

Hmm good way of looking at it.

 

Ok. *breaths* I just wanted to see it go somewhere but it won't.

 

X-mas is a good time I guess to let it pass through.

[annie24]

yeah, i think RC is dead on. I think you may be mourning more "what could have been." As opposed to your 2 year relationship, which probably died a slow death, and you know she wasn't the one for you.

[JDE00]

I ran into a similar problem. Like I said in my other post though... I've never met someone I had so much in common with. Pretty much what I've always been looking for. I don't agree x-mas will be a good time to let the feelings pass. It's a time you liked to spend with people you feel are special and important. Problem for me is... I felt she was one of them. You can call it infatuation, or whatever you want. But I know what I feel, and like you said, I can't get her out of my mind. I've been hangin with her for about a month too. Wish there was more time to spend with each other, but she's gonna be busy for the holidays, and I know the best thing I can be right now is a "good friend". *sigh*