My personnal horror story :D

[herve]

Hi there, sorry for my english but it's not my first language. I just want to share this story, which begins like in the romantic movies and end up this week in the horror section . It will show you how certain girls are simply and purely evil

 

I live in Paris and at the end of May 2003, I was walking in Paris and this american girl was sitting there on a bench. As I walked near her, she told me a nice Bonjour, so I replied hello , sit on the bench and we began to talk. We had a nice conversation , she told she was on hollidays here and that she was going the same evening to Italy for 4 days. I told her that I wanted to go somewhere for the next few days but was not sure about the place. So she invited me to go with her in Italy. I was very exited with this idea, she looks cool, good loooking girl, 30 years old, me being 36 and we had a great afternoon togeither.

 

So in the evening, we took the train to Italy and we arrived there the next day. We went out togeither the second day in Italy and we had a really great time there, it was in a small village near the sea, it was sunny , hot the place was romantic. So everything was great for the 4 days I was there. My last day there was supposed to be a monday and the sunday afternoon , we was both very sad at the idea of leaving each other. So being the foolish romantic that I am, I took the decision to stay one more day with her there, even if I knew it could cost me my job. So I stayed there till Tuesday with her, great time and I came back to Paris.

Before I left Italy, she told me that she had a realationship in the states but she was dating the guy for 3 weeks only and was not sure if she was going to continue with him. She told me that she will still see him when she will be back. I agreed about that as we just knew for 4 days and she was in the States and me in Paris. ( it should have alerted me but I was to blinded by the romance )

 

We was at the beginning of June, she went back to the States 2 days after me being back in Paris and we began to email every day. Our mails was very romantic, she said she missed me a lot, she loved me and that when she saw me the first time, she had the feeling to know me for a long time. She also said that she tought we had a really rare and special connection; for me , my feeling was very clear too, I was in love with her and was making plan in my head to see her as soon as possible.

 

At the middle of June, she told me she dumped her boyfriend , because of the lack of commitment s they had togeither and that she was now available for me. She told me her boyfriend was lacking the qualities she liked in me , etc etc.... So everything was fine, our daily mail was full of love and tenderness, and at the same time, at the end of June, my boss fired me as I missed the 2 days of the week I was in Italy with her. I did not care that me because I was in love with my american girl and he was a real asshole anyway. You know , when you're in love, everything can happen, you dont bother that much.

 

So at the beginning of July, I asked her if she would like I visit her in USA for 2 weeks as we was missing each other a lot. She was very happy with that and even if I did not have a lot of money, I managed to buy an expensive plane ticket to the States, 800 dollars, and flew there at the end of July. We had a great time togeither and I came back in Paris at the beginning of August, depressed to not be with her . So I began again to write to her but she was not writing to me that much.

 

Last week, I was very depressed and wondering what was going on, especially after our 2 months of very sweet mails and the 2 weeks there. So I wrote her a mail 2 days ago, she replied that she was very busy at work and did not have to much time to write. So yesterday as I was not feeling very good and I was telling her that I was glad we was still in love , as it helped me to go further, she replied this to me :

 

"I'm sorry to be so blunt about this, but I know that I don't love you. I never did, I was in love with life, travelling, the experience of the moment, mixed with excitement and lust. "

 

And the best part was "I want and I plan to date other people here in.."

 

How bad is that , broken hearts ???

 

Needless to say that I've been in better mood and moral .

 

I give you a few advices, for those like myself ,who feel very hurt ( and I'm trying to apply them to myself in the same time, even if it's hard )

 

1/ someone who lied, cheated, beated, hurted you does'nt desserve you and will do it again, to you or another person no matter what.

 

2/ dont play his/her game by trying to come back and begin to speak, mail or whatever => you're just fueling the pain

 

3/ convince yourself that there is nice people around who WANT to be happy and are ready to make efforts to have a nice relationship, so don't bother with all the a***holes around who threated you like ****

 

4/ try to see your ex G/B friend as they really are, I mean , their true nature and try to be objective as much as you can.

 

5/ talk to the people you trust about your break up, talking help a lot because you need to evacuate the pain, don't keep it in your head.

 

 

Hope it help, I wish you all good luck to you and to myself ( I need it , trust me )

[Baffler Meal]

Wow. That's a great post-interesting and useful. I really like the advice you've shared. I think you came to the correct conclusions and tried to learn something positive from your bad experience. You must feel pretty used. It seems like that you were just like a movie character for her and the whole thing was just for her entertainment. Some "special connection". I'm so sorry to hear about you losing your job due to this.

 

Your english is really good. Don't worry about it. It's superior to a lot of native speakers who post on the Internet!

 

Good luck, herve.

[mermayd]

Im sorry for your heartbreak. Some people really can be insensitive. but it is their loss because you sound like a wonderful guy and I am sure she nor many like her will ever actually experience true love. Just remember, there is someone out there for you. Take this (as you already have) as a learning experience. It must not have been meant to be. But you will find your love in time.