Holidays Thoughts.......

[bowman2353]

How do you handle the holidays with a new budding relationship?

 

I have taken a girl out on 4 dates this past month. Things have gone well and it would be great to see her more....but then all of a sudden BAM Thanks Giving vacation for a week....then we will both be back in town and then BAM we are both gone for two weeks for Xmas and New Years.

 

I have learned in past relationships that it really takes work and effort to get to know someone and make a relationship work. It feels like these holidays could really impede progress with this girl I am trying to date.

 

We both work long hours, so it is not like we get to see each other much when we ARE in town. Maybe once or twice a week we have seen each other.

 

Any thoughts to get around this or help our relationship grow?

 

p.s. Maybe I am going to just have to bite the bullet and wait the holidays out for things to grow. Nothing like just meeting someone you are really into and then having to wait to get to know him or her more. I just don’t want her to loose interest from not seeing each other because she really seems into me right now.

 

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[laboheme]

After those four dates, are you guys keeping in touch online or over the phone? Maybe over the next couple of weeks before you leave for the holidays, try to establish a connection like that. It doesn't have to be every day, of course, but just a couple of contacts in-between dates...Then by the time the holiday vacation rolls around, it could be okay to call each other just to chat for a while until you can see each other again.

 

If you don't get to that point by the time you leave town but still feel like the relationship has a chance, definitely send her a message to wish her a merry Christmas...she'll appreciate it! (Or maybe she'll even do it first!)

[annie24]

well, just keep in touch. call her on xmas and new years. send an e-mail every few days just to say hi. maybe get her a *small* xmas gift, like a small box of chocolates. nothing too fancy or expensive.

[bowman2353]

Ya we have texted each other a few times while we were away. And I called her once and she called me. So I guess we have established communication of that sort. But nothing like calling to say goodnight or anything.

 

It just seems like we were really progressing on those dates and then all of a sudden two long breaks.

 

Good idea about the simple gift annie. I will work on that.

 

One other question of you don't mind. Is it appropriate to ask girls to go work out with you and other outdoor activities like that? Rather that just formal dates early on. I know she likes to run and so do I so I thought it would be fun to ask her to come with me sometime. Or do you think I should save that stuff to do with my guy friends?

[annie24]

oh, I think that is a good idea. do something that you both are into as opposed to the usual dinner and a movie....

 

well, stay in contact, and I hope things go well for you and her!

[bowman2353]

Thanks Annie. Appreciate the advice.