Premature Ejaculation

[Majoraslayer]

Does anyone have any tips to avoid it, or treat it? I usually have to have a condom that kills the sensation, but I'd still like to know if there are any treatments or strategies to overcome it.

[southerngirl]

Your mind is the most powerful. Think about other things.

 

Also switching positions can help, and stopping, then starting again can help. Other people may have other ideas.

[dreynolds]

Yes, you have to learn to control the sensation - know when you're approaching your 'point of no return' and then stop, control it, bring it down a notch.

 

I've gone and done this to myself once I was single for a while - it was basically busy busy busy, get it done and move on....so I ruined that control I used to have....so it's a matter of retraining....it takes time, but be patient, and persistent!

[sparkle1]

I've read many a time...

 

Masterbate. Get as close as you can to ejaculation. Stop. Let it subside...start again. Keep doing this until you are able to build it up....then when the time 'comes' you should be able to keep going...

[Day_Walker]

Basically you want to use the start-stop method. Learn to bring yourself right to the point of no return then back off. Keep doing this again and again and again and again. Over time you will learn how to last longer. This topic has also been previously talked about if you perform a search you will find more extensive advice.

[heloladies21]

Low dosage of anti-depressants can help, talk to your doctor about it. There's also a supplement called Deferol which you can get, but never tried it.

[New_Horizons]

I agree with southerngirl. Here are some quick Erection-Busters to think about:

 

1. Equation of a parabola

2. Formula to calculate the volume of a cylinder using the value of pi

3. Your favorite culinary recipe

4. Imagine your pet dog crapping on your penis

[4InchFury]

I agree with the anti-depressants.. I've been taking them for other reasons, and I have a very hard time ejaculating now, I can sit there and stroke it for 2 hours straight (no kidding) before it blows. So if you take a very light does, I guess you would fix your PE.

[matius]

I would be more inclined to try the SSRI's, switching positions, and focusing on foreplay much more than other gimmick's like thinking about something else (more likely to lose your erection) and the start/stop technique.

 

In fact, I would be interested if one person claimed that those techniques including (kegals) have actually worked for them. I would be quite skeptical.

[matius]

It's amazing to me... website after website with so called tips for premature ejaculation (and I'm not referring to eNotAlone - er, alone). But I've never read one post anywhere saying that these solutions have solved their problems.

 

So I wonder, why do so many people create websites on PE of which they know nothing about. It's easy to say follow the Start & Stop technique and your problems will be solved. To me though it puts a false face on the problem and it makes the issue seem less serious than it really is.

 

If you do a search on Google for PE, you will find site after site of creams, pills, clever marketing adverts is the guise of real discussion about the topic... and most of all, tips for PE... start/stop, kegels, etc...

 

I'm just curious why all of this hardcore propaganda is made when it doesn't really work for people??? Strange days...

[valiantv]

Maybe daywalker and dreynolds can tell us if it worked for them?

 

I suffer from the same problem and tried the advice given for 2 days in a row... What I found was:

 

Day 1 - normal... after a few "reps", perhaps due to indiscipline when I got to the "point of no return" it really was the point of no return and I couldn't hold it in... However I did manage to only cum a little, enough to keep an erection going while I "cool off". then went back to doing it. However, the porn had to be that bit more hard-core this time before I could get to the same point... Soon enough, same story, I was at the brink, cool off for 20 seconds do it again. It was more difficult this time. However once again I did cum a little eventually (it's hard to push yourself as far as possible without going over).

Anyway, now even more work was required to maintain an erection and bring myself close to orgasm. I had to keep rewinding the porn to bits I especially liked.

 

Day 2: Took a lot longer to come close to cumming! Thought this was a good thing. Soon the same thing as the night before happened. I find it difficult to know the precise point at which to stop and cool off. Sometimes it feels like you could go a little longer but then it's too late.

 

Day 3: Sex with my girlfriend. DISASTER! I have difficulty in maintaining an erection, which needless to say is bad for her too! She gives me a bit of a bj which gets it up quick-smart... But usually just the anticipation of sex is enough!

 

Several days later: (today) for the last few days I haven't really felt like sex at all... my girlfriend was saying on the phone how it was a pity we wouldn't get to have sex yesterday (other commitments) but I was secretly a little relieved, as I wasn't sure I was "up" for it...

 

Today though I seem to be back to normal, I woke up with the usual lust for her.

[valiantv]

By the way, the equation of a parabola is now just going to make me think of sex!

[matius]

Imagine your pet dog crapping on your penis

 

Cured.

[imcnfsdwthlf]

well i have a question, when does pe actually happen? like right before you normally do or way before it happens? i'm just curious

[matius]

When PE happens is different for everyone.

 

For me, I can control it... but it's a lot of stop & start during sex. Not cool.

 

For others, it may be before their pants are unzipped...