mushukim Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Well my boyfriend is not answering his phone again and it's been a week. I let it go for quite a few days but now I'm missing him real bad I just want to talk to him. It's not the first time he's done this... he goes from one extreme to the other from calling me all the time to not calling at all and not answering. What do you make of this? I'm getting fed up and feel like I should end it... WHAT SHOULD I DO? Link to comment
mushukim Posted July 21, 2006 Author Share Posted July 21, 2006 Does he say why he does that? Nope... and I can't ask because he won't answer... i'm lost Link to comment
DN Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Tell him that if he doesn't answer what is a reasonable question he should get lost. Link to comment
InaneCathode Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Nope... and I can't ask because he won't answer... i'm lost Have you asked? Link to comment
Holiday Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 My girlfriend (friend - I'm hetero) was extremely understanding about her boyfriend's "busy schedule" as he was in med school and could only see or talk to her once every three or so weeks. I always thought, huh, that's odd. Well, he had a real girlfriend and kept her on the side for excitement. I hope your not an hors d'oeuvre or a midnight snack. FISHY FISHY FISHY! DOn't put up with his lies or backhanded remarks about you pushing him away. YUCK YUCK. Link to comment
mrjsmom Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 If he does this to you, imagine what he will do further into the relationship. If you didn't do anything to warrant this, and he gives NO explaination, how much does he value your relationship? I agree with the above post. Something isn't right. Link to comment
mushukim Posted July 21, 2006 Author Share Posted July 21, 2006 So should I keep calling him or let it go or what? I'm fed up with it and want an explanation... the thing is we don't talk everyday to give him space. What should I do now? Link to comment
Hope75 Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 I'm curious if any events lead up to these periods of silence. It's very unusual for a boyfriend to ignore his gf's phone calls for a week! Are these times preceded by arguments or fights? Link to comment
Holiday Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 If there are no extraneous circumstances (like fights, arguments, ect), I would seriously cool your heart down because he has likely moved on and isn't giving you the respect of being open and honest. That is a terrible sign. Now, I honestly think that a cold blast of neglect should be met with nothing more than a Dear John letter, sent a month late. He has done this to you repeatedly from what I hear you say and this talk of space is nothing less than a request to see other girls in my opinion. You won't hear ME say this often, but I'd dump him within the next 5000 heartbeats and be happy. Get a new place for next year and go NC. If you know for a fact that he is safe and he's just blasting you, bump him off your contact list and do something to entertain yourself for the rest of the summer. You need to get busy DOING SOMETHING! Link to comment
monkey1 Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Um, did you have an argument? really, what's the background on your relationship? there has to be a reason he does this to you. Link to comment
iamteddybearfeelmecuddle Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 That's not cool. You can't be neglected like that. Link to comment
Momene Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 This is extreme rudeness at best. Ultimatum time. Go round or send him a letter. Link to comment
mushukim Posted July 21, 2006 Author Share Posted July 21, 2006 well everyone... we broke up! Thanks for the advice tho Link to comment
Momene Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Good luck and hope you get someone who treats you better next time. You might have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince, though. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 well everyone... we broke up! Thanks for the advice tho I'm sorry to hear that you had a breakup, but it certainly seems the best option in a case like this. I know I wouldn't put up with a guy who goes MIA unpredictably all the time like that. Hang in there, sister-- you will be OK!! Link to comment
Shyguy24 Posted July 23, 2006 Share Posted July 23, 2006 Well done congrats u did the right thing . A * * * like that needs to be told to buzz off .. i mean ignoring a person is well just about the * * * *iest thing u can do atleast in my book Link to comment
InaneCathode Posted July 24, 2006 Share Posted July 24, 2006 well everyone... we broke up! Thanks for the advice tho What the hell? Did you actually try talking this over with him, or did you just get fed up independently and break up with him. If you never talked it over with him i'd venture to say that he isnt losing something good. Link to comment
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