mrjsmom

If he does this to you, imagine what he will do further into the relationship. If you didn't do anything to warrant this, and he gives NO explaination, how much does he value your relationship? I agree with the above post. Something isn't right.

Sounds to me like your doing ok, girth is just as important (if not more) then length. Length wise, I think you are average, but in girth, you seem to be above average. If you know how to work it, then size really doesn't matter. But if you are self conscience about it, it will show and that is more of a turn off than size.

I don't go near a man unless he is shaved completely and vice versa. Just a personal preference. And I let the man I am going to be with know what is expected, if he has a problem with doing it, I'll help him 'clean up'.

Sounds like a wonderful plan! Good for you and congrats!

Northernlights - Just to clear things up...I have a friend that is a lesbian, I am not!! I always call my female friends - 'girlfriends', sorry for the confusion. (but hey, it's cool!!) Thank you all so much for complimenting me on my mommy skills, I would have thought for sure that I was loosing him on this. Last night we talked some more, not about this issue, but about nature, (his goal in life is to help endangered animals)...he is so damn wonderful and we hardly get one on one together it was nice. When the subject comes up again, I will be more prepaired.

Tigris - Thanks again - I have told him that condoms are a must in any situation. We talk about that kinda stuff all the time!! I have older nieces and nephews and we were raised to be very open sexually. I can even talk to my mom (who is 73 and a nurse practioner!) about my sex life!! BTW, I love your engagement counter...very cute!!

I lost my dad almost a year ago and it is still very hard. At first I grieved FOR my mom, then for siblings, my family and lastly myself. That was bad for me because I hadn't actually grieved for myself because I was so worried about everyone else. I think it takes a full year to realize it actually happened. I still cry every day for him. There is really no feeling like it at all. The funeral home send us a magazine called 'The anatomy of Grief', it was excellent and to the point with the stages of grief. You actually will go through them so will your mom. Also, my mother went to group sessions at HOSPICE center for hope. I went to counseling as well enrolled my children in a group too. It was hard for them to understand and they still talk about him everyday too!! That really helped a lot. I remember the first time I actually felt GOOD after his death, I actually felt GUILTY. He was a great man who I miss every day. Yesterday was his birthday! You will go through so much but more appreciative of life. My thoughts are with you!! ~L~

Thank you all so much! Tigris I would love to chat! I think as a mom, I go thru these panic moments when I am praying I am doing the right thing. My little one (girl) is only 7 - and I am totally NOT ready to have the 'talk' with her, but my son is asking A LOT of questions, and I agree the last post, it's time to have a longer, maybe a bit more detailed talk with my son. I think a trip to a book store might be good for me as well. They all started 'gay' talk in school ( and I handled an explanation - minus the actually acts - pretty much in detail, I called it an alternate life style where instead of a mom/dad you would find two of EACH in that type of family, and all that's important is LOVE, FAMILY etc.) this year and that might be what is on his mind and it's totally ok in my book that he is curious in every respect. That's healthy right?? That IS normal - to be curious.

Thank you. We were shopping today and he showed me a pack of underware with a almost naked man on it. So I asked...."what is it about that you like?" (am I too pushy? I don't want to act like "OH MY GOOOOD!!) and he just smiled. So I pushed it again, and said..."Do you wish you were WITH him or wish you LOOKED like him?" He said...."Ma, I wish I had a body like that!!" So I just said to him..."Well baby, I don't blame you, he's pretty hunky" and left it at that. He is a good boy, handsome, smart, polite (no kidding), would help an old lady with her groceries etc. So, no worries there. I like what you all have been saying and what ever will be will be. I just needed advice on the WHAT IF'S?? Yeah, I'm cool, but this is MY KID. He will NEVER think that. Being a single mom, so many parents loose their communication skill with their children and I wouldn't want that. His father would DIE and blame it on me (of course). He knows my g/f who is gay but lives in Fla so doesn't see her much and the others are co-workers who I haven't had over due to scheduling. My niece is (hasn't come out to him yet) and he sees her all the time. So, I feel is not sheltered in that way. He also comments about girls, and has friends that he shares that kinda stuff with as well.

I notice that I get along better with my b/f right after that time of the month until mid month. I hope that makes sense. Basically - when we are not in the mood for anything and we are snappy - its about that time. It's hard to understand, because I don't really see how 'short' I've been until AFTER. For some woman, it can be really bad some months.

Thank you!! He is only 11. I know that's early but I remember being more aware of members of my own sex instead of the opposite at that age. The locker room scene was guys getting dressed (waist up), and of course, a girl barging in to tell one of them off. Who knows...am I suppose to really care? I mean I want him happy with himself first and foremost. The rest is up to him... I have always said I would rather someone be happy (I have several gay friends) with a member of the same sex, instead of miserable with a member of the opposite. I may have to live by those words!

Hi. This is my first post. I am a single mom of two, one each. My son has said/done some things to indicate that he may be attracted to boys. For instantance, last night while watching a movie with a boys locker room scene, he said "I want to watch this again just to see the boys in the locker room" and then immediately said "nevermind"! I think it's ok, but everytime I ask him to talk about it, he says the same thing. How do I get him to trust that I will accept ANYTHING he does in life? I am ok with it, but don't really know how to get that point accross to him and don't want to be too pushy or lead him in one direction or another. I want to raise an independent, happy man!