friscodj Posted June 12, 2006 Author Share Posted June 12, 2006 >that a lot of people mistake "drama" for "love." Oh yeah...this one is so true... Link to comment
friscodj Posted June 12, 2006 Author Share Posted June 12, 2006 1. There are two sides to every story. Amen to that. And that makes it tough sometimes to give advice. You almost have to read deeper into the post and ask questions to get more of the truth... It would be way cool if there was a couples advice aspect to this site...where two people post separately about a problem and we all work through it together... Link to comment
Momene Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 I think sometimes personal bias comes into it, if we see a problem that we've had, we tend to sympathise with the person who's been dumped if we've just been dumped and theing the dumper is a rat/cow/bar steward, etc. There are 2 sides but we have to advise whoever is asking how to deal with the problem as they see it and try to be as unbiased as we can. Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 I have learned so much here at ENA! 1. There are two sides to every story. Amen to that. And that makes it tough sometimes to give advice. You almost have to read deeper into the post and ask questions to get more of the truth...Yes, you have to almost always ask lots of questions It would be way cool if there was a couples advice aspect to this site...where two people post separately about a problem and we all work through it together... A couples-only forum would be a great idea. Rules: OP by couples only, each providing a separate OP. Other forum rules unchanged. I think sometimes personal bias comes into it, if we see a problem that we've had, we tend to sympathise with the person who's been dumped if we've just been dumped and theing the dumper is a rat/cow/bar steward, etc. There are 2 sides but we have to advise whoever is asking how to deal with the problem as they see it and try to be as unbiased as we can. Bias is a problem at times. For example when infidelity is involved, some come along "them have sinned". Sure them have, and I am here to help to fix it. Me thinks as log as one goes in positively "how can I help", one can make a meaningful contribution. ... And one should not cry when it does not work out. Does ones best and keeps happy . Link to comment
Alpha J Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 From being on here a few days, I have learned that sometimes being a nice guy and doing the right things will not always garauntee that you will have a loving relationship......it takes two to tango. I have learned that some people just generally dont care about one another's feelings and at times they can be selfish as the devil. Link to comment
Momene Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 From being on here a few days, I have learned that sometimes being a nice guy and doing the right things will not always garauntee that you will have a loving relationship......it takes two to tango. I have learned that some people just generally dont care about one another's feelings and at times they can be selfish as the devil. "Doing the right thing" is difficult as you can only guess what it is. You can be TOO nice. A certain amount of selfishness is OK, as long as the relationship is roughly balanced. There are no guarantees in relationships. Someone can fall out of love without there being any reasonale or rational explanation. If there was, there wouldn't be the need for sites like this. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 That you're not alone, everyone has problems, some are even at worst situations than you are right now. Also to listen to people's troubles, esp. those that admit that they did a mistake and not label them nicknames nor flame them. Link to comment
icanttakeitanymore Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 I love everyone who has helped me on this board. I really took all they said and tried to apply it to the relationship. Everything you said is true. Link to comment
Momene Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 One thing I've learned in life generally is that even the most outwardly secure people still have inner insecurities. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 even the most outwardly secure people still have inner insecurities. Yup, very true!!!!!! Only difference is they don't talk baout it that often nor show it that much. Link to comment
Momene Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Yup, very true!!!!!! Only difference is they don't talk baout it that often nor show it that much. I don't talk about mine in "real life" much because most people find it boring. If people on here are bored with others' problems, they can just look at the next thread. I find it interesting (addictive, even) and always try to offer some encouragement. Link to comment
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