A fine line between not interested and playing hard to get?

[Insects Destroy]

Is this is a fine between these two?

 

I have been socialising with a girl (you may have read my previous post, although she is going away)

 

Some days i wont hear anything from her until i text, then she will either reply straight away or in the evening, it really confuses me as i dont ever know what to think. All the times we have met, she has been the one to suggest meeting up, and when we do meet i feel like we get on great!

 

She admitted she liked me when she was drunk, but nothing has really been said since about it, i am really confused as to what she really thinks.

 

 

[Jhodas]

Playing hard to get is a mind game. A battle for control. It also infuriates men. And I agree, sometimes it's difficult to differentiate between lack of interest and 'playing hard to get'.

 

Perhaps the direct approach might be in order. Although you may want to bear in mind that she is leaving. Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality.

 

If you can live with not knowing how she feels after she leaves, just keep socialising.

 

I you think it will bug you, then ask her. If she's not willing to admit that she likes you when questioned directly, she's probably not worth your time.

[Goodfun88]

Um, maybe you should try asking her out? She's admitted to liking you, if you don't ask her out soon, she'll move on and think you don't like her. She probably already thinks you don't like her, but you could possibly recover from that. Good luck!

[Caterina]

Hi sweetie, ask her out. And...I relate to the signature on your profile.

[PocoDiablo]

I wrote an entire article on this:

 

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Ask her out. She ADMITTED she liked you and you STILL didn't ask her out? She's going to friendzone you very soon if you don't make your intentions clear.

[Insects Destroy]

thats a good post mate

 

There is complications, i could of asked her out but she goes to USA tomorrow for 5 months so it would of been strange asking her out as such.

 

Im in limbo now, she leaves tomorrow...we chatted breifly on msn and now im stuck on what to do

 

Any advice? HELP!

[PocoDiablo]

She leaves TOMORROW? Tell her goodbye and to have a nice trip. Nothing will come of this. Tell her to call you when she comes back and you'll go out.

[Markers]

ok 5 months? You can't establish a strong enough relationship in one day so that your long distance relationship could last for 5 months. There's just no chances to do that, so my advice is not even bother trying. Do something else..

[Insects Destroy]

cheers for the comments, it does seem i was getting ahead of myself

 

We have known each other for 6 years, and we have kind of flirted on and off since last year before she went away.

 

I guess all i can do is see what happens in the future

[avoj]

Ok listen up. I'm in a situation like yours. Only my friend and I slept together twice. The first time we slept together we both admit having feelings for each other, but she just isn't ready. A week later she tells me she doesn't think we should be physical, but wants to cuddle and be emotional. Then tells me she doesn;t want to lead me on. Next she tells me she and i will never happen, but she has feelings for me and doesnt want to have feelings for me.

We sleep together a second time a few weeks ago. I've spent a lot of time with her but still its a no. I have asked her to date me. I have admitted to her she has my heart on a string. This is the crap I put up with. It's not worth it. Only causes more freakin heartache. I just spent the weekend with her at her familys. She spent the evening yesterday with her ex. I have made it a point not to email or call her. I'm sick of this game I feel she is playing. I am making myself unavailable to her right now. I want her to come chasing me. At least those are my hopes.

Don't get yourself involved. I mean ask her once if you must if she will date you. If she gives you some lame * * * * excuse run, run away.

Dont put yourself where I am right now. My heart actually aches.

[Dating Coach]

avoj, why would you even want someone who can treat you like that? That person would have lost the chance to be with me a long time ago.

[avoj]

She has lost her chance. I'm to good for her.