Sunshine07 Posted March 5, 2006 Share Posted March 5, 2006 I've been single for about 3 months now. I'm finally starting to get back into the groove of things. There's this guy in one of my classes at school who I like. He's really outgoing; I'm shy. He seemed to talk to everyone in the class except me, but he always sat right next to me and kind of look at me when he thought I was paying attention to the professor (silly him, why would i do that?) Finally one day we started talking, and he seemed really interested (in getting to know me at least). We talked for a pretty long time. The next two times I saw him, he initiated converstaion (and seemed a little nervous, too!) He seemed really eager to talk to me, and then out of nowhere, would start to ignore me. There's another girl on the other side of him who he'll like say random stuff to once in a while. He seems nice and offered to help me out with some school stuff, and he seems to like to talk a lot to me, but why does he suddenly ignore me!? I'm thinking he's just a really outgoing, friendly guy who just likes to talk. Link to comment
DN Posted March 5, 2006 Share Posted March 5, 2006 Take him up on the offer to help you out with the school stuff - that may have been an oblique approach. Link to comment
Sunshine07 Posted March 5, 2006 Author Share Posted March 5, 2006 Well it was actually an offer to help me get an internship (that i recently found out i don't need). last time i saw him he told me not to worry that he was still working on it. Link to comment
altosinger314 Posted March 5, 2006 Share Posted March 5, 2006 I'm a shy person, too, and often the shyness is interpreted by other people as coldness, haughtiness, that kind of thing. Since you're more used to him, try to initiate conversations more. Nothing to lose! Link to comment
DN Posted March 5, 2006 Share Posted March 5, 2006 OK - so say you would like to thank him for helping you and offer to buy him a coffee after class. Link to comment
Sunshine07 Posted March 5, 2006 Author Share Posted March 5, 2006 omg, that's such a great idea. i can't believe i didn't think of that!!! but if he says no, i'm going to wonder if he doesn't like me or cause he feels bad letting me buy him coffee. plus, he's always drinking coffee in class. so what should i do if he says no? Link to comment
PocoDiablo Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 I doubt he'll say no. Sounds like he really likes you but is too nervous to ask you on a date. You'll have to jump start him a little. I know lots of guys who can talk to everyone *except* the one woman they really like. The "reward" for helping you would be a good idea. If he says no, he's an idiot - why would you want to pursue him any more after that? Link to comment
MusicIsEverything90 Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 Well don't just suggest coffee, suggest coffee or lunch. If he's a really outgoing guy then he probably won't refuse to go out. And it seems like he likes you so go for it! Link to comment
Markers Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 go with coffee, probably not lunch.. coffee's more comfortable, probably works for that guy better. Like Poco said there's guys who can talk anyone but THE girl.. I think it applies for girls as well.. Link to comment
Sunshine07 Posted March 6, 2006 Author Share Posted March 6, 2006 Ok, thanks guys so much for your help. You're great!!!!! I'm definitely give it a shot! Link to comment
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