he doesn't try to give me an orgasm....

[oneshygal]

I've been seeing a great guy for the past month on a casual basis. We have slept together about 10 times, however, although he orgasms each time, he has never even tried to get me to orgasm. He doesn't touch me "down there" or anything.

 

Do some men just not even think about this? It's starting to become an issue for me....but i don't want to create an awkward situation in asking for it.....and i'm not sure i should even HAVE to ask for it.

 

Thoughts?

[lost_status]

Its possible he doesnt know how to touch you OR he might think that you do orgasm through intercourse. Next time you have sex, try introducing foreplay then playfully suggest the things he can do to you to help you orgasim.

[Süsser Tod]

Have seen him for the past month, on a casual basis, and slept with him 10 times???

 

 

Are you sure this isn't just a "booty call" and you are getting the short end of the deal?

[heloladies21]

One of two things, either he doesn't know how or he doesn't care. Or maybe both, and in that case you got yourself a real catch! lol

 

Guide him, talk to him about it about before, during, and after. The best sex i've had is when both people are actively involved

[RandomAdvisor]

He's never going to know it's a problem if you don't tell him about it. If you do tell him and he isn't interested in pleasing you, you should stop sleeping with him. Personally I don't think you should be sleeping with someone on a "casual" basis anyway, but that's just me.

[darkblue]

Some men just don't know!.

They must think their orgasms are contagious.

[annie24]

Well, when you two are "together" just say, "Ooohhh.... I like it when a guy does this....." or "I love having this done to me....." and show him....

 

good luck

[Tigris]

I agree with Annie.

 

Good luck.

[SDgirl1234]

i think you need to talk with your partner and let him know whats up... its important for you to be fulfilled too, its not selfish: its fair. and if you're too shy or embarrassed to talk about it with him, you guys shouldnt be involved sexually....

 

best of luck to you!

[Faith729]

Men just don't know. I've had this problem w/ my husband and after I couldn't stand it any longer, I mentioned it to him. He simply stated " I'm not a mind reader ", and has since made more of an effort.

 

If you've been w/ this guy for such a short time....how could he possibly know all of your likes/dislikes if you don't mention it???

 

Communication is key....we're still working on that one.....

 

Good Luck !!!!

[Day_Walker]

Fundamentally it comes down to him not wanting to do it. With the information you provided it just seems that he just wants vaginal penetration. If you want other kinds of stimulation then you need to speek up or atleast lead him in that direction.

[Shadows Light]

IMO... communication is the key. You've already seen each other naked so there is nothing to be bashful about. Easy for me to say.... cause I still ...

 

There are a number of programs on cable channels that are sexually oriented and talk about different genre's of sex. Maybe you can break the ice by watching one of these programs.

 

Do you touch him manually? Well the next time you are intimate and you are kissing... touch him first, and then take his hand and guide him. Whisper in his ear... "I'd love it if you'd touch me there."

 

Do you do Oral on him? Well... when you get to this stage and give him oral. Then turn the tables on him and ask him to do that to you. Or while you are down there... look up to him and tell him that you'd like him to do this to you... gives him something to think about while your down there.

 

And right after being intimate is a great time to talk about likes and dislikes. Even when you are in the heat of passion... whisper to him and tell him what you'd like.

[mccarleighp]

why dont u try talking to him about trying new things try looking on the net together see if that helps