Katini Posted August 17, 2005 Share Posted August 17, 2005 ...It's been about 3 weeks since we broke up--I'm 16 and he's 18 and it was an 8-month relationship (kind of extremely long during highschool)! The breakup was mutual-ish, but more on his side. I was tired of the problems, we were both working on them, but he decided to make the choice when I said "We have to decide to really work at statying together, and BELIEVE that we will, or just end this now" I went NC for two and a half weeks, and then contacted him, met for a closure meeting which was emotional; He was dumb and...I actually posted in another forum before, on another site, so I've gotten out a lot of my emotion. But I think I am better! IOt's been a few days since I saw him and he's barely on my mind. I'm settling back into looking forward to the future and not worrying so much about why the past wasn't working. I loved him a lot--But when he said he dodn't love me anymore (but cared for me a lot and wants a friendship--which I will decide if I want) I think that was it. What was the point of holding on to something that wasn't there anymore? And with Unviersity, he wanted to go off and experience life unattached. I don't blame him for THAT, anyway. Is this greiving period too short? I'm already looking forward to entering the sort of single/dating world! Link to comment
laclarita Posted August 17, 2005 Share Posted August 17, 2005 I think it's normal after a break up to be looking around for dating, but this is what they call "rebound". Take some time for yourself, do things you like to do alone and with friends... Link to comment
Katini Posted August 17, 2005 Author Share Posted August 17, 2005 quick reply-- yeah, I'm trying to be wary of the rebound relationship. I know that it can be dangerous. he was my first love--my first a lot of things, although I'm glad we never quite got to full-on sex. I think that would have made me attached. How long do you reccommend before sort of--accepting dating back into my life? I said I wouldn't go LOOKING until October 14th---haha, two months after I was talking with a girlfriend about it. Link to comment
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