Katini

quick reply-- yeah, I'm trying to be wary of the rebound relationship. I know that it can be dangerous. he was my first love--my first a lot of things, although I'm glad we never quite got to full-on sex. I think that would have made me attached. How long do you reccommend before sort of--accepting dating back into my life? I said I wouldn't go LOOKING until October 14th---haha, two months after I was talking with a girlfriend about it.

...It's been about 3 weeks since we broke up--I'm 16 and he's 18 and it was an 8-month relationship (kind of extremely long during highschool)! The breakup was mutual-ish, but more on his side. I was tired of the problems, we were both working on them, but he decided to make the choice when I said "We have to decide to really work at statying together, and BELIEVE that we will, or just end this now" I went NC for two and a half weeks, and then contacted him, met for a closure meeting which was emotional; He was dumb and...I actually posted in another forum before, on another site, so I've gotten out a lot of my emotion. But I think I am better! IOt's been a few days since I saw him and he's barely on my mind. I'm settling back into looking forward to the future and not worrying so much about why the past wasn't working. I loved him a lot--But when he said he dodn't love me anymore (but cared for me a lot and wants a friendship--which I will decide if I want) I think that was it. What was the point of holding on to something that wasn't there anymore? And with Unviersity, he wanted to go off and experience life unattached. I don't blame him for THAT, anyway. Is this greiving period too short? I'm already looking forward to entering the sort of single/dating world!

I'm kind of in a similar situation. Particularly about the sex issue, but that's beyond the point. my boyfriend of 8 months recently ended the relationship. It'll be three weeks on tuesday. It was mutual in some ways--We both recognized that there were problems, mostly relating to his going off to unveristy. I'm almost 17 and he's 18, and I think he was feeling held back in the relationship. This frustrates me because I do, in some way, feel that if he truly loved me like we said we did, he wouldn't have been pulled so drasticaly away. HIS LOSS! I am fabulous. Anyway, it's been very. As of yesterday morning, I had gone the ful 2 1/2 weeks with no contact, and it was a very emotional breakup night. there wasn't a lot of anger and I got in a last kiss and wow...it was quite crazy. But the days following were brutal, and like you, I've had good days and bad days. Yesteday afternoon, I got a suspicion confirmed that he had gone out clubbing three nights after the breakup, gotten drunk, and made out with some random girls. This guy was honestly one of the nice guys when we started dating, and he still has a lot of it in him now. We're both Artsies-- met through a school drama club and such. We have some mutual friends and the thing that kept the relationship alive (besides some severe chemistry) Was our ability to understand one another. With all the little issues and problems we did have, we connected deeply underneath everything. He was my best friend after awhile. Anyway, he has a problem opening up. And What happened was, I called him yesterday afternoon and set up a sort of meeting, which is happenning tomorrow. I feel like I've regained some control. I msut be off, but I'll continue this soon. My question is: DO CLOSURE CONVERSATIONS WORK? I've had almsot 3 weeks of NC and I feel this is what I need, and I have no intention of begging for him back,