Chillyfrog Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Okay so just a little while ago my bf and i got in a fight over me saying that he wants me to wear skirts and shorts and then last night he kinda implied that he was used to the sex and he took forever to "do his deed". I told him today it pissed me off so he flipped out in a rage and smashed the remote and then he grabbed my wrists really hard and shook me then shook the chair he has done this more then once. is this abuse? Link to comment
daisy_rides Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 I don't know if its abuse, did he hurt you or leave marks? If he did then maybe you need to tell a friend. Has it happened a lot lately or just every now and then? he may have some anger issues that he may need help with. I hope everything works out for you and that it doesn't happen again. Good Luck. Link to comment
segagirl Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 yes this is abuse. Physical to be exact. With the information you have given... he is controlling and selfish. Loose this massive jerk fast before you really get hurt. Dont ever let anyone lay a hand on you. ever Link to comment
Poltergeist Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Yes get out fast before its too late. He might do something that you don't want to do. Link to comment
dextro Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 yeah it's really easy to say get out real fast when you're not in that kind of situation. You love him? You must tell him that it hurts you so mad, control your feelings ( rage, pain ) and be clear. Tell him that you deserve better than this and if he continues that way, he'll be lonely for the rest of his life. Sometimes people just don't know where to stop. peace Link to comment
kandi13 Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 yes that is abuse drop the jerk to the curb, you cant let a guy touch u in n e way, and when he starts get out of that relationship quick, dont let a jerk like that touch you ever!!!! Once he starts it will neva end hun Link to comment
sabena Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Totally agree with the other two, YES its abuse! Get out now!!! You should be able to express your fears, happiness and anger at your partner without resorting to physical violence or mental violence for that matter. Just because he did not leave marks doesn't mean its not abuse... But to defend him, does he have any major problems going on? Men keep a lot of stuff to themselves and maybe he just took it out on you but you need to find this out and to me, it would have to be a major problem for someone to phsyically grab me and shake me! keep your eyes wide open and stay safe Link to comment
luvsick41 Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 it isnt abuse yet, it is walking the fine line, and at any moment he could fall to the dark side, very very very very very very BAD SIGN.........talk to him if u love and really care about him, talk to him about how it made u feel, but if u arent too close to him, get out, leave him alone........1 Link to comment
pi_anochik Posted June 24, 2003 Share Posted June 24, 2003 it is Most certainly and completely abuse. Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable is abuse and/or harassment, both of which are VERY illegal. I know it's hard to leave someone you love, but you REALLY need to. Right now it may just be shaking you hard and breaking things and saying rude things, but that can change to hurting you badly, breaking more things, and saying things that shouldn't be said to anyone anyways. You need to get as far away from him as you can.[/b] Link to comment
Chillyfrog Posted August 6, 2003 Author Share Posted August 6, 2003 thanks to all!!!!!!I love the advice I get from all of you..God Bless you all Link to comment
bzborow1 Posted August 9, 2003 Share Posted August 9, 2003 I have to agree with Segagirl, you should lose this one fast! At the very least, you should make him fully understand him putting his hands on you like that is unacceptable. Remember that these things tend to start with something smaller and get worse with time. Link to comment
psychochic Posted August 9, 2003 Share Posted August 9, 2003 pleez be careful love dis guy is truble u may fink hes da best guy in da world but hes physically abusing u and its not ryt u need 2 get out of da relationship fast and dnt go runnin bac 2 him fink of little mo on eastenders if u watch dat?? hugs 'n' kisses X X X Link to comment
landerson Posted August 14, 2003 Share Posted August 14, 2003 You bet this is abuse. I spent 8 years with someone who beat me half to death just because he could. It starts off small and escalates. Statistics show he is HIGHLY unlikely to stop on his own (I think about 2% the last time I checked). Not much more even with counseling. It will get to the point where he will start fights for the sole purpose of taking out his aggression on you. Good luck and you need to leave without giving him a forwarding address. Link to comment
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