Confusedman123 Posted March 22, 2018 Share Posted March 22, 2018 So i have been dating this girl for the past year and now we are broken up again. Around the same exact time last year (spring) she broke up with me. We continued talking and eventually the day before my birthday we started dating again. During that time we were intimate about once a week. Right before getting back together I found out she was sleeping with a couple other guys and I was ready to leave. As I was leaving she grabbed a bottle of pills though and threatened to commit suicide and i didn't believe her so she dumped them in her mouth and swallowed. I was shocked and stayed while calling poison control. I end up forgiving her after this and we were together for another eight months. This damaged our relationship though because I did not trust her after this considering I asked her multiple times when we were apart if she had slept with other guys and the answer was no. She lied to me putting my health at risk and when we got back together she called me controlling. The reason she said this is because I did not like her drinking. When we would go out she would get so drunk to the point I was carrying her home. This happened over and over and it became a terrible looping argument. I tried so hard to plead with her to control her drinking. It effected her depression that she is diagnosed with massively and by the end of the night she would be in bed crying her eyes out. During the break up she also was bolemic and every time I distanced myself a new problem would come out. This being one of them. It got to the point where I actually almost told her parents but ended up telling her sister and they did nothing. Once we got back together i believed this stopped because I saw huge changes but of course I could never be sure. Now to the present. Recently we broke up and she dumped me saying I was too controlling. All i was trying to do is protect her and love her. Maybe you cant fix peoples problems for them. I do not know. After about two weeks of not talking she contacted me after a heavy night of drinking the next day and I of course felt bad because her depression was terrible and she told her friends she was going to kill herself and they just left and I went over there and we were intimate again. It sucks because I really love her. After this we talked for a bit and then there was a wall of silence again so I stopped texting her. She is drinking all the time again and I can see that she is liking other guys photos on facebook on instagram even though she blocked me. I try not to look at it and concentrate on myself and my happiness. As soon as i distance myself she texts me again like nothing happened. This time she got in a fight with her friends and they were not talking to her so she called me. The next day as soon as she made up with her friends she ignored me again. It seems like every time I try to move on and i start to be happy again this happens and tears me down again. She only calls me when we are broken up if something bad is happening, I get no good times. I just do not know what to do anymore because I really love this person but it kills me inside every time this happens because I get my hopes up only for them to get greeted again by a wall of silence. What do you think I should do next time this happens. I still do love her and when we are together we are happy and healthy besides me trying to stave off the drinking. Alcoholism and drug use runs in this persons family and combined with depression it is not fun to watch at all, in fact it is super painful to watch, when it happens. I wish i could just solve these issues but I dont even know if that is possible. Please help. She also does other things look wise that during our relationship she new i loved and then posts pictures of it online so she knows I will see it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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