IrishEyes81 Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 I am in my 50s, been divorced for a very long time. Finally fell in love with a man that was just finalizing his divorce after a nightmare marriage of 39 years. They married right out of high school, had several kids etc. He stayed through countless separations due to the kids and then simply not wanting to be a "failure". Finally though, finaled papers, moved out etc. He dated a couple of women during this time but nothing serious. Then he meets me and it was BAM for both of us. We fell in love and I moved in three months after the divorce was final. I know. HUGE mistake. However for the next two years, everything was wonderful. His friends all said they had never seen him happier, his daughter told me she loved how happy I made her father. We traveled or stayed at home, it was all wonderful. We never had a fight. Some disagreements, but he said from the beginning "we will always talk. no burying things" and so we did. we talked through our issues like adults...until... One morning, after a wonderful trip to Boston, I woke up to "I need a break". He looked like he wanted to die. He said he needed to have the life experiences I have had. He needed to date around. He felt like he had never been single. He thought I should date too because he didn't want me to wait for someone that may or may not come back. I NEVER saw this coming. I moved out that day... He left me there sobbing, homeless and devastated. He said later he just couldn't see me that way. We talked a few times and then that was that. I then find out, 5 weeks after the break up, he is dating a woman that he had a few dates with before meeting me. How could he just delete me and then replace me immediately? He was the one that advanced EVERYTHING. The first I Love You, the moving in together. He wanted me to not just meet his family but learn to love them, which I did. He wanted me involved with his friends, his business. A month and a half before, out of the blue he looked at me and said "I have never had any doubts about us, not once". Did that thought scare him? Was that the beginning of the end. Was I just a very long rebound for him. How do I stop crying and move on when I have NO IDEA how this happened? Was it never real for him? I am just so lost and so tired of being sad. Link to comment
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