jkdkthrowaway Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 So, im a 23M recently in a new relationship of about 2 weeks. About 1.5 months ago (asked her to be my girlfriend 2 weeks ago) we established exclusivity by basically saying that we wouldn't want to share each other with anyone (so we wouldn't like each other hooking up or dating others) and we talked about our feelings. We still did refer to each other as single on an often basis. A week later, not sure what got into me but I was lying in bed and thought about the direction our relationship was heading and thought that oh this is my last chance to ever be single, so I downloaded tinder out of I guess curiosity and a moment of temptation ("one last hoorah". Now I didnt end up doing anything, matched with a few people but a friend saw my profile and laughed at me so I deleted it right away. Chuckled to myself that I was being an idiot, and its a sign that I'm done with the single life and I moved on from it. Today I just remembered this incident and felt guilty, especially since I have been experiencing relationship anxiety recently (ROCD). Not sure if I should take this to the grave with me or let her know, im sure she will be hurt but im also sure that as soon as those matches became reality, I wouldve not pursued it. I had another situation before asking her out where I was to be introduced to another girl, as soon as the opportunity became reality, I felt immediate guilt and shut it down. There is always a chance that I may have done something, but I'll never know, and know for sure that I will not now, without a doubt. I believe that I wouldn't of then, but still feel guilty. Not sure what to do? Should I take it to the grave and focus on being the best boyfriend I can be, or admit this too her to rid of my guilt, but I won't know the outcome. I really do care about this girl and I am putting 100% in to make this work, especially since I asked her to be my girlfriend. TL;DR downloaded tinder while still single but exclusive, didnt do anything but feel guilt Link to comment
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