baronvonsauce Posted October 24, 2017 Share Posted October 24, 2017 Sorry for the very long story, but I have a friend who I met online nearly 14 years ago. I was writing a story on a fanfiction site, and she contacted me via AIM (that's how long ago it was) and told me how much she liked my work. We get to talking and writing stories together (usually kept between us) and as the years go by, I end up getting a crush on her. When I joined the military, I got stationed in her home state and we met up IRL at a convention (as friends, but she was aware that I had a crush on her). After a year or so, I ask her out and she turns me down politely, saying she wasn't interested in me in that way. I'm able to let go of my feeling at this point and even get a girlfriend for a while, but that relationship ended a few months later. I vanish for a deployment and come back, and she invites me to her house to meet her parents and hang out. This happens a few times, and then one day out of the blue, she asks me out on a date, which I accept. After a few more, we become a couple for about less than a year. It turns out she was giving me a chance because I had waited so long and she was trying to force the feelings onto herself. Regardless, we end peacefully and remain really good friends. And then my next girlfriend comes up. A year into the relationship, she gets upset over me still being friends with the girl, and like crappy friend, I stop being friends with her. I had called her to do it and when we hung up, she messaged me saying she was crying. I cried that day too. I stay with this girl for 4 more years before we finally break up, and for the record, it was a nightmare of a relationship. Fast forward to this past end of August. I finally get some nerve and message this friend and apologize. She accepts and we get back to being really good friends. We go back to making stories and chatting about our interests and all that. Lately though, I feel like I'm falling for her again. I've noticed some possible signs of interest, but I think I may be reading too much into it. Number 1: We talk non-stop, mostly about story stuff, but also our own interests and each other. When we're at work, she'll email me thoughout the day if she isn't too busy. When I have my phone, we'll chat and write our story. When we're at home, we chat and write until one of us goes to bed. With all the new tech that came out after we stopped being friends, we seem to be always in touch. Number 2: I got invited to her house three weeks after we became friends again. Her family was excited to see me again, and she and I played games together. After her little cousin had left and it was just me and her, she ended up poking me with her toes by accident, and had them there for a while. She apologized and stopped, but I was a little surprised by it. She never did that before. Number 3: I visited her at her job (department store) to pick up a Halloween decoration. She helps me find it, then helps me go find the men's clothes. Just as I'm leaving, she gives me a hug (usually, our hugs are friendly with a sizable gap between us). However this time, she walked forward and pressed her body against mine. She's usually really funny about being touched, so that was a little strange to me. Number 4: She's on OKCupid and had two dates with two different guys just last week. The first date she was nervous about telling me about and when I asked her why, she simply said 'blame my gut.' I do ask her how it went and she said that she enjoyed it and accepted a second. I asked her that if I end up developing feeling for her again, will she quit being my friend or let it get in the way of her happiness (I assumed that why she was nervous about telling me). She said 'Nah, you've always respected my wishes and that means a lot. You're still one of my best friends.' Number 5: The second date happens a few nights later and she texts me in the middle of it to complain about their waitress not returning for 45 minutes. The date ends and she messages me before she drives home that's she's excited to get back to her story. I ask her how her date went and this is the exchange that went down: Her: He’s cool. I like this man. I mean I liked the last one too. Please don’t let my life end up like a shoujo manga where I gotta deal with guy drama Me: Unless I'm the unlikely hero of this manga can't help ya there Her: XD Her: At least you’re honest I do think I have feelings for her again and I want to see if I can rekindle this relationship. I want to try flirting with her and see what happens (soon as I figure out how to approach it) Still, I won't bank on it happening and will find someone else if she hooks up or I get turned down again. But I dunno if I'm reading too much into this or if she might be interested in me as well. I did invite her out to a friendly outing two days after her date, but she wanted me time after being on two dates and a full week of work. We stayed home and chat/wrote our story all day that day. I just need to know what I should do. It's confusing and I'd hate to think I'm missing another shot at this relationship. We dated nearly 7 years ago and I think we both got an idea of what we want in life/relationships. Any thoughts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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