Sweet Sue Posted October 19, 2017 Share Posted October 19, 2017 I am in my early 60's and suffering with a chronic illness. I don't look my age and I always try to look my best whenever I am in public. To give you a little background, I was always a healthy person for most of my life. I got married and raised a daughter. I have been divorced for 20 years. I worked two jobs to support myself until I began experiencing neuropathic pain. I worked for another 4 years before I was forced to resign. I moved in with my dad focused on finding what was wrong with me. To make a long story short, I was diagnosed and have been receiving treatment and am slowly re- covering. I don't know how long it will take to make a complete and full recovery. During the last 10 years, I have been in 2 serious relationships. Let me add here that dating is like an endurance test. I suffer with fatigue and chronic pain. I also became my father's fulltime caregiver 7 years ago. I feel like I live like a recluse, so even meeting a guy is extremely difficult. Last year, I was on three dating sites and well, after several phone conversations with some very nice men who seemed very interested, I never got a call back. I guess it was because I told them my job is caring for my father...that is My job. It is hard to get away, even for one day because I can't find anyone to look after him. My life is so depressing! I rarely go out and if I do, I know I will be for a short time because I become so fatigued and my pain intensifies. As mentioned earlier in this post, I have had 2 serious relationships. Both men left me because of my sickness. Can you imagine how this makes me feel? I don't know whether I should be mad or understand that dating a person with a chronic illness is a real challenge and not everyone can do it. I honestly don't know if I could date a man with a chronic illness. I don't know what to do. I can't work and I am totally dependent on my father for support. He is 90 years old and has his own health issues. I look after him 24/7 without a break or a day off, while I try to care for myself. I miss the life I once had...I miss my health, my freedom, an active dating life, taking vacations and so much more. I get up everyday and wonder how many more days will I have to live like this. I also worry about finances too. I want to find love again. Sick people want to be loved too! I am "Sue" with a chronic illness but it doesn't define me. I feel like my life is passing me by. It has been 11 years since I became ill and I have missed so much in my life. It is hard to have someone you love leave you because you are sick and can't enjoy things together. I am frustrated too! I do have a strong faith and believe that one day I will be healed. I welcome you thoughts and suggestions and thanks for listening! Link to comment
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