Complicated situation with girl

[ryano]

I was told by two different people that this girl "fancied the pants off me", one was her friend and the other was another friend's brother. I did like this girl and started to really think about asking her out. The only problem is, i hardly ever see her as she goes to a completely different school and have little chance of seeing her, although i do know both her brothers, one older and one younger than me which made the situation a bit awkward.

 

Anyway, i asked her friend if she was being serious a week or two later but she said "no" as she "just wanted to annoy her", so i just moved on although i still had feelings for her.

 

But it turned out that this girl didn't want me to know she fancied me back then, and now wanted a date (arranged through her friend i know, obviously because we dont see each other).

 

I was over the moon but had to change the date from the Friday (which she wanted) to the Saturday as i really was busy and couldn't get out of it.

 

Her friends were meant to go on the date with us (for moral support or something for her, i don't actually know although her friend did say it was to stop the awkward silences), but they didnt come for various reasons and she was 30 minutes late herself.

Anyway, the date went ok in my eyes, i was nice, listened to her, paid for everything, held hands with her, didn't force a kiss on her or anything.

But anytime i asked if she wanted something to eat at the cinema, or after it she just said "no", even though it was over dinner time we were there. Not the best place obviously the cinema, cause you can't talk during it.

Anyway, at the end of the date, i asked her if she wanted to see me again and she said:

 

"I'm working on Saturday and going to a party on Sunday"

"What about Friday?" i asked

"I don't know"

 

So i took the hint and said goodbye dropping her off at her friends house; which was where she wanted. If she had said yes i would have got her phone number and given her a kiss at this point, but obviously that didnt happen, so i had no way of contacting her except through her friend.

 

She apparently said the date was "fine" to this friend and hasnt spoken to the other firend since the date so i don't know what's going on with her and if she was trying to reject me (even though i didnt do anything wrong in my eyes).

The friend (who hasnt seen her since) that set up the date says she thinks she still likes me and maybe just wants to concentrate on exams, and her other friend's brother told me that her parents are strict and that was why i had to drop her off at her friends house, so they didn't find out she was on a date.

 

So basically i don't know if her responce has something to do with this or if she actually doesnt want to see me again. She probably knows alot more about me that i do of her, and maybe didn't see the 'funny' me she was expecting cause i felt that if i tried to be funny i would just look like a show off and she would think i was full of myself.

 

The friend that set up the date should probably see her this week, so should i give this friend my number to give to her or would that just seem pathetic as she has dropped a big hint that doesnt want to see me again?

It's really been eating away at my mind because it was about 4 weeks ago and i really would do almost anything to be with this girl (from the date and what i know her she is exactly what i'm looking for in a girl), so i need your advice.

 

 

P.S, sorry for the book^, but i did say it was complicated

[just_smile]

hey

-i just want to say something first - some girls dont like eating in front of guys for some reason or another its just the way some of us are.

 

- if it has been 4 weeks then i think she would have tried to get into contact by now if she was really interested, but if you dont think you were your complete self and think she is exactly what you are looking for then i guess you could try again or give your friend your number to give to her then it is really up to the girl whether she calls or not.

 

- oh yeh one more thing, there are loads of people so, this one girls might not be everything you are looking for, someone out there might be better than her so dont just concentrate on this one, keep lookin

 

LJ =;

[annie24]

erm.... you have to get all these people untangled out of your lovelife!!! This is nuts!!! Ever played that game "telephone" where you give one person a message, and that person whispers it to the next, and so on and so forth, and by the time the last person hears it, it's COMPLETELY different?

 

Well, this is what's happening. You need to get this girl's number and talk to her DIRECTLY about stuff. Leave everyone else out of it. It's not their business. A relationship only has room for 2 people.

 

Good luck - I hope things go well for you!

[ryano]

Thanks guys.

 

Well she hasn't really had anyway to get in contact with me as she hasn't seen her friend since (and i haven't seen her friend for 2 weeks myself).

 

Anyway, i will give her friend my number on Monday if i see her and hopefully i'll find out soon enough, from the girl herself.

 

 

 

Cheers, for replying.

[annie24]

Thanks guys.

 

Well she hasn't really had anyway to get in contact with me as she hasn't seen her friend since (and i haven't seen her friend for 2 weeks myself).

 

Anyway, i will give her friend my number on Monday if i see her and hopefully i'll find out soon enough, from the girl herself.

 

 

 

Cheers, for replying.

 

No no no! Get her number yourself. Or, ask her friend for her number. Basically, get your friends out of the equation. Sometimes, people like to muck up others relationships. It would be a shame if things didn't work out due to miscommunications.

[ryano]

You see, i don't really want to call her because of what she said at the end at the end of the date, i might just seem like an idiot for not taking the hint.

 

But i can deffinetly see you are right, i need to speak with her in person and stop relying on her friend (as should she).