jewels7683 Posted July 13, 2017 Share Posted July 13, 2017 I'm a little scared to post this topic because I know what most people are going to say but here goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years and lived together for 2 1/2 years. For the most part, living together has gone well and we didn't have many issues. In the last 4 weeks, my boyfriend has made a new friend who is a girl. He met her through final fantasy. She is married with kids and has a similar military and background that my boyfriend has. I have met her and he has tried to include me in things that they are doing but for one reason or another I didn't end up joining them. This new friendship has led to many fights because he is constantly wanting to do things with her, and now her husband only because I insisted that they try to do things in groups or include others. We got in a blow out July 2nd. It got so bad at one point he left and I thought that was the end of everything. I called my parents because I thought it was done and they offered to help change locks or what ever they could do to help. My boyfriend came home and smoothed things over but my boyfriend is mad at my family for siding with me and were ready to come change locks and such. Please note my family and I are very close and I do talk to at least one person from my family, meaning my parents and sister, once a day. Anyways, I realized I probably jumped the gun in telling my family anything before things got settled. My boyfriend and I were supposed to go on a trip to see my parents over the 4th, a trip that I ended up going by myself on because my boyfriend didn't feel comfortable going with me after all that had happened. While I was gone, it seemed like things were getting better. I got home and he was on the phone and game with his friend for most of the night when I got home. Mind you they had all just hung out while I was gone so I figured they wouldn't still need to be attached at the hip. I got upset at my boyfriend for constantly being on the phone with this girl. I was going to just move on from the whole thing but then I received a bank statement and thinking it was mine for my cc, it was his for his checking account. Come to find out he went to see her on the 4th and took my dog, who he was watching, with him. On the 4th he acted like he was home and hadn't gone out anywhere.I confronted him about it and he admitted he went and didn't tell me because he didn't want to start a fight. I get that to a point but the fact he lied to me about it has hung me up for while. Now we are fighting about the fact he doesn't see much wrong with hiding this and lying to me about. I got home yesterday and he told me that he wants to move out and buy a place, not something he as much talked about with me before this. He says that it would be good for him to have equity, know that he can be financially stable and a couple other reasons that he had never talked to me about. He says I'm jealous of this girl, which is partially true, but now he has confided in her about things that I had no idea about. He swears up and down they are just friends and that I just don't like how close they are. It just feel like he is doing all of this because of this friend. I finally told him that if he wants to move out that I support it. He says he doesn't want to break up, but I don't see how that wouldn't happen. I'm not sure what to do about all this. I'm at the point that I"m just saying whatever will happen, will happen but I don't know if there is some other things I should do to help prevent this from happening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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