Ex wants to get back together after he had rebound sex

[eidetic]

Speaking of worrying about medical tests, have this guy get a full panel workup for all the STIs. Because I don't think anyone here mentioned that part. Whatever country he's in and whoever he was bedding, even if the two of you were on a legit or mutually agreed break -- some of the STIs can actually kill you. And several of them often don't have any symptoms.

 

The problem I'm seeing is that he didn't just go with one experience or partner -- apparently he went for broke and tried on a fast sequence of several partners. All the more reason for STI testing, and don't take his word for it either: you want the full stack of lab results paperwork.

 

If there's to be reconciliation between you, make him earn it. It's not enough for him to have been transparent in the initial telling; part of that is the boon to him of unburdening his own guilt. There needs to be transparency going forward, and if he's defensive or unforthcoming about that, or protective about his freedoms or self authority, you'd do best to cut him loose.

 

A one-off is one thing. A spree is something else. Doesn't matter that you two were in agreement about the break. Ask him to get tested for everything, especially HSV1, HSV2, and HPV. And do not have sex with him until you know what he's brought home.

[valavoo]

If this were me, I would really make him prove his loyalty.

 

I agree with the above about STI testing. He MUST get it. And I think that if you really want to give him a chance, you must have a trial period first imo.