Billyp89 Posted March 20, 2017 Share Posted March 20, 2017 Hey everyone ! My Ex of 2 and a bit years broke up with me around Christmas time, Due to the fact we was just not getting on for the last few months. we kept arguing .. i became jealous and paranoid and become needy due to fact of i could see it slipping away, and even said some nasty stuff when we argued jus because she never believed what ever i said. which got very frustrating She was crying her eyes out (as girls do) saying she loves me but just doesn't know what else to do and that we both wasn't happy anymore .. According to her and her family and friends i have been the first guy she really wanted to spend the rest of her life with and was always talking about marriage and having kids. After we broke up around mid december time , we still was in contact daily and was still seeing each other all the time . ( as she believed we would get back together and she just needed time to forgot everything. i became needy and kept brining things up which obviously pushed her away more . We stopped seeing each other around mid january. Contact was still there and the usual on and off chit chat was still happening but she didn't want to meet up with me because she knew i would bring something up.. any way cut along story short it is now march and at least once a week she reaches out to me ... The latest examples are : Around 3 weeks ago , she went on holiday to a place in spain we have been together on a few holidays . She rang me and asked if i have blocked her phone number because she was trying to FaceTime me . I explained i have switched phones . anyway we was chatting for a while and she then proceeded to snapchat me a few times showing me her hotel etc.. The next day i contacted her ( i know i shouldn't of but i couldn't resist anyway everything was fine and exchanged a few snaps . the end of that week on the friday she was coming back from the air port according to her snapchat and i was up at my local boxing club which i had also snap chatted and she had vowed my snap . It was about half 8 and she came straight from the airport and turned up at my club. as i was working out i noticed her walking by a few times but i didn't turn to say hello or anything i just kept doing my thing.. when i was coming downstairs to go and leave the club i could hear her shout by Billy but i was already out the door so didn't walk back into say by . we was messaging that night and she said to me that she thought i would of come and said hello to her .. i explained the opportunity didn't arrive to talk and that i thought she would of stopped to say hi ( bad move ) she then got angry and said she doesn't always have to do everything . That was that .. the following week we was snap chatting everything was fine then out of know where she said " it really s me off but every time i speak to you , you just don't seem yourself " then she said I'm not being horrible I'm just checking that your ok. i explained I'm ok just going through the journey of life and i well get there .. she said the usual i am always here if you need a chat etc .. like an idiot i said it would be nice to see you and she said when your back to your normal self i will think about it .. because at the moment when ever we talk it makes me sad because your so unlike yourself . just under a week later i check my phone and i had 3 missed calls , i was at work so didn't answer then i saw there was 5 missed calls . so i txt her just to check everything was ok . i said " is everything ok i am at work . she asked what time i fisnihed and then said well i had some stuff to give you but because you didn't answer i left it outside your back door she then said that i usually answer when I'm at work: i just played it off and said thanks for dropping of my stuff. ( which ended up to be just a duffle bag) she then replied with "Hows the new girl at work lol " My ex used to work with me so she still keeps in contact with some people in my work place .. i replied she seems ok a good worker but quite young. she then said " oh i have found some more stuff of yours i will drop it by later , i asked what it was and she said some shoes so i told her to bin it ( as i don't know if i could face seeing her) she replied they are nice tho and you haven't worn them much ... I replied its fine i haven't missed them so throw them she said its a waste but ok .. I never replied back ... That evening about 10pm i get a message from her asking if i got my stuff ok i kept its short and said yes i did thank you , she then went on to make further convo ..i txt back a couple of times but then left it .... just under a week later ( Yesterday ) i was in the pub with my cousin and i get a txt from her , it was her sending me a video of me singing ( badly ) and jokingly to a gospel song in her kitchen .. and she said was just going through my and i found this and i thought you should have it. i pend it but didn't reply straight away she the txt back saying " Ok ignore me then " i said sorry was busy and haha i love the video. she said "haha it did make me laugh".. i said i was jamming to this tune earlier and she said haha somethings never change .. i put a smiley face to end the convo and she didn't reply back .. Basically she has reached out a lot more before all this but thought i would give the recents .. bare in mind before this i explained to her to please not reach out to me , as i love you and i am not interested in being friends with you .. i said there for there is no reason to talk .. she agreed but has obviously still continued to reach out .. Also she was never a snap chatter but when i started posting lots of snapchat stories so did she .. and when i stopped she stopped to .. its like a game or something. I really love this woman and is the first woman to really route for me and felt like i ed things up with my jealousy and neediness etc and was selfish according to her . which i probably was this was my first long term relationship so probably couldn't give much although she still tells me I'm an amazing man and the best guy she has ever met. I just want a second chance . which was the plan at first but obvisuoly over pursuing didn't help my case.. Im trying to focus on my self but then she reaches out and i feel lie I'm back square one again. Im not sure why she bothers reaching out to me if she doesn't want a relationship .. Sorry for the essay people .. Just a confused dude looking for guidance . Many thanks . Link to comment
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